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AIBU?

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AIBU that I am not too old.

86 replies

Lonelymummyof1 · 09/04/2017 11:03

So after a conversation with a delightful teenager, who asked when I was thinking about getting married because I am now apparently 1/3 of the way through my entire life ( charming I know )
It got me thinking I have never really thought about getting married yet.
How old were you when took the plunge ?
Now I know who I want to marry when the time comes just never seen the rush.

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JanetBrown2015 · 09/04/2017 13:41

I was keen to be married as I wanted a lot of children (and to work and buy a house).

However it's up to you - lots of people see no rush or don't want marriage at all.

EC22 · 09/04/2017 13:47

Married at 30 after 4 1/2 years together.

BeautyQueenFromMars · 09/04/2017 13:53

Met at 33, married two months before my 35th birthday.
In the community/religion I grew up in, it's generally expected that you'll be married with at least one child by the time you're 23. I escaped that one!

Emily7708 · 09/04/2017 13:54

Met at 19, married at 21. Just about to celebrate 23rd wedding anniversary.

Fairylea · 09/04/2017 13:57

Engaged at 19 but didn't marry. Broke up when we were 24.

Married at 27 to husband number 1 broke up at 29 (he left me for girlfriend he'd had before me he'd reconnected with on Facebook!)

Married again at 32 to husband number 2 been happily together now for nearly 7 years.

yesnowplease · 09/04/2017 14:01

Together at 17. Engaged at 23. Married at 24.

Kenworthington · 09/04/2017 14:02

I met dh when I was 21 and he was 23, had ds1 when I was 23 and got married a fortnight off my 25th birthday. Am 41 now

Miniwookie · 09/04/2017 14:05

Met DH at 19, married at 26.

WritingHome · 09/04/2017 14:06

I met dh when i was just shy of turning 30. We then had dd 2 months before my 35th birthday.

We had both had a couple of long term relationships prior to meeting but once we got together we just knew that was it.

Married 14 years this year!

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 09/04/2017 14:07

Met when I was 23, married at 25, and widowed at 32.

PaulDacresFeministConscience · 09/04/2017 14:11

Met DH when I was 16 and became friends, got together when I was 22, bought first house and got engaged at 24 and married at 26.

MeadowHay · 09/04/2017 14:11

DH and I met when I was 18 and he hadn't yet turned 18. We got together the night that we met really. Just after I turned 19 we got engaged (so he was still 18) - we were in a long-distance relationship at the time. We moved in together not long after he turned 19. Married when I was 20 and he was still 19. I am now 23 and he will soon turn 23. Quick and young but we are very happy and I agree that when you know you just know.

MeadowHay · 09/04/2017 14:14

Chris I'm so sorry to hear about your loss . That must have been so tough.

2ndSopranos · 09/04/2017 14:15

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ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 09/04/2017 14:19

Thanks Meadow - yeah, it was tough, but it was 15 years ago now.

ETanny · 09/04/2017 14:20

I was 20 when we got married and hubby 24. It'll be 8yrs for us next month :)

tass1960 · 09/04/2017 14:20

Met when we were both 17, married at 19, children at 29 and 32 - married 37 years this year. Had our ups and downs but mostly ups and now on our own again the children having flown the nest this year.

Chasingsquirrels · 09/04/2017 14:23

ExH: met at 18, got together at 19, got married at 26, had DC at 30 and 33, separated at 35.

Late-DH: met at 28, got together at 39, married at 44, widowed at 44.

The future - who knows....

notangelinajolie · 09/04/2017 14:26

Met at 22. Bought a house together at 24. Married at 26. DC's came along when I was 28, 30 & 36. Still together after 27 years.

NotYoda · 09/04/2017 14:34

Met at 18. Got together at 20. Married at 27. Kids at 30 and 33

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 09/04/2017 14:36

Sorry to hear you were also widowed Chasing .

Chasingsquirrels · 09/04/2017 14:40

Thanks ChrisYoungFuckingRocks, you too - I posted first and have just read through the thread.
Only two weeks ago, and funeral was Friday. So all very raw.

user1491724818 · 09/04/2017 14:40

Got married first time at 23. Split up 18 months later!

Cackleberry4 · 09/04/2017 14:43

We started going out together when I was 23, engaged at 25 and married when I was 27. We celebrate our 20th anniversary this year.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 09/04/2017 14:44

Well I was first due to get married at 28. Didn't happen as the fecker ran off with a secretary from work 3m prior to the wedding but it turned out for the best (and meant I avoided all the MIL-from-hell scenarios!)

That would have been my "ideal" age to get married, had done a fair bit of what I wanted to etc. BUT afterwards, I did LOADS more and had FAR more fun! I'd been with no.1 since late teens, so had almost descended into middle-agedness by late 20s, but the, admittedly forced, release gave me a new lease of life and rejuvenated me.

Ended up getting married at 39, DS1 at 40 and DS2 at 45. But I've always maintained that it felt like I "reset the clock" when no. 1 fucked off - dropped the 11 years we'd been together, and went back to being the age I was when we first got together. Nonsense, of course - but that's how I feel and they do say you're only as old/young as you feel!

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