To feel l'm going NUTS with the NOISE!!!?? Visitors!

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Friends are here to stay. We live abroad. This is the end of their 2nd week and there's one still to go.

On reflection, this was too long but I agreed as DH was so keen. It's a Dad and his 13 year old DD. We have DD aged 12 and another aged 10.

The bastard fucking noise they make constantly is driving me to insanity.

They're NEVER quiet. Not for a moment. If one isn't talking, then they're singing, humming, whistling....he snores massively loudly and the room he's in is close to mine.

So even when it's nighttime and everyone's in bed I can HEAR THEM!

Currently, my younger DD and his DD are playing FUCKING KAZOOS which he bought them.

I was in the kitchen and they all came in. I tried to stay for a while but couldn't.

The DD is greedy. We had dinner last night and DH then cut up some fruit. She pulled the plate towards her whilst everyone was chatting or clearing plates and she ate it all!

She knew it was a sharing plate but still ate the lot. Her Dad said something like "Might have been nice for you to share that..." but that was all he said.

If there's a big pot of yogurt then she will literally eat the lot within one day. She just keeps returning to the fridge till' it's all gone.

I can't take any more!

Its your dh's house too and having his friend stay is making him happy. Sounds like the children are getting on too. I do think 3 weeks is a bit too long but it's more than halfway over now.

OP you've made me think on about our forthcoming holiday... we're going abroad to stay with friends for 2 weeks. There's 5 of us and only 4 of them (5 children in total all under 9!!). My mission now is to train my brood into being the politest house guests possible!

Sorry am of no help to you, but I hope the next week flies by for you

I feel your pain! On holiday at the in-law's I'm always being tracked down to answer assorted questions.

So I ended up taking a folding chair and a book into a wardrobe with louvred doors and hid.

DC only found my hiding place 5+ years later!

Is there anywhere you can hide surreptitiously?

Ach it's got to the point where they can't do right for doing wrong can they?

Three weeks was definitely too long. One week maximum would have kept things short and sweet and you might not have got to the point where everything they do is annoying to you.

They do say that guests are like fish...after three days they start to stink.

House guests are like fish. They stink after three days.

I am like you OP, this would drive me to the brink too. I have just spent two days in hospital and the noise was horrific. Bleeping (Jaysus- the fucking bleeping!) bellowing patients and fucking devices all day and half the night as well as clattering trollies and .........made me half crazy.
You are normal. I hate anything that puts me out of my routine. Brace face. Only a few more days to go and then say never again.

Max All I'd say is to tell them that running in the house is not ok...that they must take their plates and glasses to the sink or dishwasher and NOT leave them around for me other people to collect, they mustn't shout, yell, scream, be mean or selfish with food and they must always say please and thank you.

:)

It's not easy I know. I feel marginally better now. I've told them I'm not cooking tonight...so they've gone to collect takeaway.

I feel churlish now but I had to have a little vent.

Border I am now working out a place I can go to! There must be somewhere!

Sounds tough, op, - but it's always difficult when different groups have different 'rules'.

I'm not too bothered, for example, about DD eating at the table with us each day - depending on the food etc.

However, to some of my friends, that is verboten and a fast track to chaos.

I'd be annoyed with DH. He insisted on 3 weeks, yet you seem to be the go to guy for questions. You need to be firmer with your boundaries - you don't want people in your bedroom, DH should be aware of this and enforcing it. It's ok to be blatent.

At the in laws I've been encouraged to use the en suite. I felt wrong going through their bedroom. I've known them almost 2 decades, married their child, they've seen me breastfeed. In fact, they sent me up to their room for a nap when I was knackered with baby 2. But I still feel like I shouldn't just wonder through another adults bedroom. It's a perfectly ok boundary to have, even if it isn't universal.

Equally the noise. Hard because some people at just loud (I'm one of them). But you can say the kazoos are restricted to one room, that you then don't go in. They play it elsewhere "take that in the x room please". If they don't, just confiscate it. It sounds like you need to be a bit blunter about your needs. Don't lose your temper, just tell them the rules in your house. You may have to invent some if you don't already have eg, a kazoo policy.
Good luck!

Op, if there is a next time make it a week. Three weeks is a loooong time to have house guests.

I'd be do annoyed with DH for insisting they stay for 3 weeks, that's far too long! I'd go insane. Couple of days max is the rule here.
Did he do all the prep? Washing sheets, buying in food, cooking? Has he taken 3 weeks off work?
Poor you, sounds a nightmare.

I would be near suicidal at this- YANBU.

I agree with PP - you have to make an escape. A friend needs you urgently - you quietly book into a B&B with eleventy books and a bottle of vodka. DH invited them, he can deal with them.

This way DH will be onside and won't suggest anything so outrageously stupid again. Good luck.

typical - the woman being expected to 'mind/sort out the kids' whilst the fathers do their own thing!

You live and learn. My house is tiny so have never had anyone stay over night let alone 3 weeks. I am probably the wrong person to answer as a weeks holiday with my best friends family who i really like doesn't even appeal. I really like my own space or i get irritable. I guess now you can be on countdown to them going and in future just put your foot down and stand firm if your husband makes any such suggestions.

OP this is horrendous. Three weeks is pure torture. Can you escape for the day?

They're using your house as a holiday home.

Who are these people who seem to invite themselves to MNers houses for weeks on end?

People need to perfect their 'fuck off' vibe.