Giving up on groups of friends

[Candlelightnewf]

Just that really.

I'm giving up on being part of a group of self important females and will stick to just seeing friends on an individual basis.

Life is so much simpler that way.

I'd been out with them once before all this, literally 3 days before my bday lunch for another bday thing.

I kept getting asked how I felt blah blah and getting told, "your mum and dad loved you very much and wouldn't want you to be sad" and tbh I was out for a drink - not a counselling session - I found it hard to hold the tears back if I'm honest (I did) so if anyone plays the "hard to be around as she's bereaved" card they will get an almighty virtual slap.

I was tempted to delete fb too as didn't want the "false" wishes but I'm in touch with a lot of people just on fb via groups etc so left it.

Fucking cunts. "Aw we will make your bday special Hun" - yeah - it's a stand out! I'd never been left sobbing in all 45 of them before!

Dh and I have ditched our group of 'couple' friends, we didn't like the talking behind backs and the fawning over one particularly nasty couple.

Very hard to do when social life revolves around doing things and dc all friends but the right thing.

We feel much happier and have separate friend but not fussed about a busy social life.

Quite sad but I don't think that many people are genuinely nice and decent really.

My group was through work, we got friendly and I and another person have left but the rest still work there. We thought we'd try to keep the friendship group going but I don't think it was for me. Other groups I have been in (which fell apart organically) but am still friends with some of the individuals were uni first year halls or my maths course.

Basically where people were thrown together and looking for a social safety net and super keen to get along. But once the situation is finished, the purpose of the group is finished and think that only in rare instances do they continue to be as close knit as they were.

I have met some lovely individuals from these groups though, who are now some of my closest friends :)