To desperately want a child?

[PandaEyes25]

I'm 25 years old.
Been with my OH (He's 24) for 7 years.
We bought our house a year ago.
Both on good money with a reasonable savings pot.

Everything is perfect and I'm really really happy. However, I'm desperate for a baby.
It's the only thing I yearn for.

We have both been to Uni. My OH is middle management and I'm the head of accounts at a company.
I have been offered extra work of about 5 hours a week to be conducted from home for an extra £500 per month. So I know that if I decide not to go back to work full time I will still be able to have this wage (I've checked with employer). I know it's not a lot but it would cover all of our bills including food and baby supplies. Excluding mortgage.
I'm not motivated by moving up the career ladder and wouldn't mind if I had to take a severe demotion in the future if I chose to give up work for the baby.

The only thing I'm conscious of is that we're both quite young and unmarried.

We have discussed it and my OH says that he is not put off by the fact that we are unmarried at the moment because it will happen in the near future whether or not we have a child. He says that he would be ready for a child but that we could wait a couple of years as we are still young- there is no rush. But if I wanted to come off my Pill, he would be happy.
Neither of us feel like we would be missing out on anything, e.g. travelling, if we did have a baby- quite the opposite!

Am I being unreasonable for not caring that we are young and unmarried?

If you're planning to get married anyway I'd do that first and go on a lovely honeymoon!

I had dc1 at 22 and dc2 at 24 (DH was 24 & 26), although I was married we didn't own a house, have savings etc so you're in a better position from that POV. I thought it was brilliant having them young as in our 30's we'd have a lot more flexibility and freedom etc. However I'm now expecting DC3 at 34 so that theory didn't pan out...

SIL had her DC at 15 & 18 and was an amazing mum. Age is just a number 😊

32 even....

I was 24 when I had my eldest and wasn't married. I don't think it always makes sense or works out in terms of financial security to get married. I'm a divorced mother of 4 now and in the worst financial situation I've ever been in

25 isn't too young to start a family. I would get married first though. Me and my OH had this conversation and decided to do the wedding first as we felt once we started to have babies the wedding would take a back seat and we'd never get around to it. Our wedding is next month and we will start ttc at the end of the year after our fabulous honeymoon! ....we wanted to 'do it properly' as your OH does...so going all out on the wedding and the honeymoon and feel very relieved that we did! xx

25 is not too young. I had my first at 23 and was unmarried. Got married at 24.

Your age isn't too young and the fact you're not married isn't an issue. The only think id say is that your OH needs to be 100% on board when you do start trying so it might be worth waiting a year or two for that.

Going against the flow, I would get married first.

Unmarried parents are much more likely to split up. This is independent of other factors that might think will protect you (income, social class, education). The poorest who marry are more likely to stay together than the richest and/or those with degrees who don't. Getting married (and staying married - the hard part!) increases your HH wealth and stability.

I also think your OH needs to take the positive decision to be on the same page as you -you don't just want to drift into having a baby and then drift into marriage without really discussing your future. If he says he's sure you will get married at some point, why not now?

Your age isn't the issue. For protection, marry your partner.
Worse case, the baby drives you apart, shows u the cracks, and you split.

I had my first young, married and happy. But it was horrendous, the recovery took medical management and three years of pain. If I had been thirty not twenty, it would have been a huge time issue for me. By the time I was ready for another, and allowed by my consultant I was a lot older, and had I been a decade older, potentially would have struggled to conceive.

Op I had DS at 32 and am now expecting ds2 at 34. Dh is 5 years older than me and we've been together 17 years.

We both now say that we wished that we'd had dc earlier, perhaps when I was 26? 27? 28? Something like that, anyway.

There are 2 sides. Yes, we got our house sorted and went on a couple of holidays and got married and generally had a quiet time just the 2 of us.

But if we had our time again we'd throw caution to the wind earlier and just do it. 24/25 isn't young and if it's what you want then just do it.

I would say, though, that if there is anything in particular you want to do first then go for that because I've found having any form of adult life almost impossible since having DS

Gahh! Sorry OP I had misread if he's not totally for it wait a couple of years.

I had my DD1 at 20 and DD2 at 21. DH was 25 and 26. We got married when DD1 was 5 months old and she was the cutest little flower girl 😉 I think we would still be unmarried if my parents didn't bankroll the wedding as other posters have said. There's always something else to spend the money on once kids are involved.

I would recommend getting married now or atleast soon after baby is here. As pp's have said. It offers you invaluable financial protection if you are giving up work or considerably reducing your hours/income.
I would also make sure your DP is completely on board.