About giving children my surname?

[AngelZoo]

So, I didn't drop my surname when I got married but hyphenated it. Dh was absolutely fine with it but requested that children have his surname when we had them. I agreed, their choice, his surname is nice and not open to teasing. Since then, we have had children (5 ) and we've given each child my surname as one of their middle names. This was apparently not something Dh's aunt was aware of. MIL mentioned it to her two weeks ago. Since then we've had three birthday parties and two Sunday dinners and she has mentioned it at every single gathering. I've gritted my teeth and just nodded along with her views but AIBU about giving them my surname?
Can I tell her to piss off the next time I see her and she starts banging on about it? BTW, my surname is lovely!

Our dd has both our surnames double barreled. I know the pils aren't too happy about it. They've never said as much but expressed it in other ways - like leaving my part of her name out of cards or calling her a "their surname".

I don't care. It's nobody else's business.

I do a lot of genealogy. People were giving their kids the mum's maiden name centuries ago - Aunt needs to get a grip!

Had i of though about this I would have done this too.

Having your mother's name as a middle name has been in my dads famiky for generations. My middle name is muns maiden name and my kids have my maiden name.

I dont get whats odd about it.

I wish I'd done it. I miss my original surname and it would have been a pretty middle name for my daughters.

I guess that's the point - you've used it as a middle name. You'd have been perfectly reasonable to have double barrelled them, or used your surname, or anything else, anyway. But a middle name? It's a lovely thing to have done.

Obviously YANBU.

Next time just ask her what her issue is, or say 'I think we are up to speed with your opinion now, interesting, but not a view we share. And we won't be changing it. So perhaps we can let the matter rest "

Have you asked her why she seems so preoccupied with the minutiae of your lives together? It's very odd.

Maybe she thinks you could have hyphenated their names, or given them your name as surname?

Feminists did exist in her generation.

They may even have invented it

It was very much the done thing in Victorian times. How very modern of her not to like it.

AIBU about giving them my surname?

C'mon you can't genuinely be unsure about this can you? Kids having both parents or even just their mothers names is completely normal - you must know this?

I'm baffled one Aunt would suddenly make you question this?