Big family holiday aibu

[Billybullshitterz]

Hello vipers help me get some perspective here. My parents are both hale and hearty and are both hitting the big 60 this year. As part of their celebrations they have decided to rent a villa somewhere hot and sunny for three weeks this summer. They have their best friends spending time with them and have invited my brother, his lovely girlfriend and my 20 year old DS to visit them for part of the time. I'm a teacher obviously restricted to holidays and am feeling just a bit miffed that she has booked the villa for September meaning me or DP attending is not an option. I was simply told that they were all going then and thats that. DP could go but hasn't been invited. I know it's their birthday so up to them what they decide what they want and I'm sure DS is going to love a week or so with grandparents and Dbro.

As an aside they are all attending a big overseas family wedding that again I can't attend because of work, I'm fine with this but for some the holiday plans do smart a little. So AIBU to feel a little pissed off that I'm being excluded or smile sweetly and let them get on with it?

I wouldn't bother. It's annoying trying to catch on to the coat tails of plans that have been set in motion ages ago. A whole lot of faff for one weekend, when no allowances have been made for you whatsoever!

I wouldn't read too much into your dp not being invited, that's probably just down to you not being able to go.

It's crap being left out of big events, especially when all the excitement is brewing (which is usually better than the event itself).

I would take the money you'd have spent on taking your mum away and spend it on a cracking all inclusive deal somewhere where you can lounge around with cocktails all day. And send your parents a "birthday postcard" hi ho! Wish you were here

Thanks livefor! You have summed up how I feel. Don't want to fall out with them but yes it's a bit shit to exclude one of your DC's. I will make plans for the summer and I know DP wouldn't have been invited without me.

I would be very hurt.

I wouldn't be going there for the weekend. You sound too nice OP. Don't let them treat you like this. I would throw a strop. Sometimes you need to.

Hope they expect your brother to look after them in old age, not you. Selfish gits.

Have a great time!

And try not to feel too bad about this situation. It's surprising sometimes how essentially good people can be inconsiderate/excluding, and when they're called on it, they trundle on anyway. Just rest assured this is clearly something you don't do, judging by your last birthday party.

Oh but make sure you don't spend hours and hours with them regaling you with tales of their holiday! Make an excuse and go pour yourself another drink at that point. Nip that shit in the bud. They left you out = no bragging rights afterwards, especially as you'll have been back at work. In fact you can put it to them that way (jokingly) "I think you gave up bragging rights when you booked a family holiday right at the start of my OFSTED shitstorm..." (or whatever).

for you.

Thanks!

I'm going to make plans and let them crack on. I wouldn't mind but when we were planning what to do with DS for his 21st next year ( he wants to visit a city) first thing I bloody did was invite them! Never mind I'm glad it's ok to feel miffed but at least I know I can sort my summer out and make some plans.. families eh??