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Do people really eat a cooked meal every single night?

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JonesyAndTheSalad · 05/04/2017 11:24

I just can't!

I have done this week as we've got guests so it seems the polite and right thing to do...to cook a meal each night.

But the endless stream of meat and potatoes is awful!

We've had pasta one night but that was also with meat...another night we had pizzas...home made...the other nights it has been curry with chicken and rice and a variety of red meat with various potatoes.

I always ask the guests "What do you fancy this evening?" and it's always meat and potatoes of some kind!

Is this usual? Tonight I just didn't fancy it so said I didn't fancy a full meal and I ate some yogurt...they were a bit Shock

Do you eat like this every night? Or do you sometimes think "Meh I'll have a sandwich" or "The kids will be happy with egg on toast and some fruit"

Or is it only me?

OP posts:
skerrywind · 06/04/2017 10:30

bobo dinner.

Do people really eat a cooked meal every single night?
BoboChic · 06/04/2017 10:33

skerrywind - our family's choice is to prioritize having an evening meal together, and we make decisions about other activities in accordance with that priority.

Your family's choices are very different.

Neither has anything to do with "luck".

user1489179512 · 06/04/2017 10:34

Put that in yer pipe? Was I addressing you, person with the long name?

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:34

Yes, course you were. Enjoy your smoke, long person name.

skerrywind · 06/04/2017 10:35

bobo some of us don't have that choice.

Some people don't have a home big enough for a dining table- is that a choice too?

BoboChic · 06/04/2017 10:36

When my home wasn't big enough for a dining table I lived alone. Choice.

GetAHaircutCarl · 06/04/2017 10:38

bobo do you tell your DD she can't do any activities that would interfere with dinner time?

What if she had a mad passion for something and/or a real talent?

bananafish81 · 06/04/2017 10:38

I know what you mean but in the past I have found that if I don't cook properly and just snack, I lose my appetite. If I am by myself (if DH and children aren't at home) I just cook something like salmon and potatoes with peas/salad. It is quick and easy but probably more nutritious/filling than yoghurt/cereal.

Yup, I definitely don't have any appetite. That's why I find it so tiresome having to make food I have no interest in eating. Salmon and sweet potato and microwave steamed veg was basically what I lived on when I was doing my treatment. It's true that if you eat more you want to eat more. After my miscarriages I just lost any drive to eat, and so it just became too much of a hassle to make myself make dinner I didn't want to eat.

Have only read backwards, as it were, up this page but my impression is that the people who don't cook are getting defensive. Those who do cook every evening have every right to say that they do so. Whatever others may read between the lines is their problem

Because those who do have said that those of us who don't are lazy and weird. I'm not critiquing those who do cook from scratch every night. I wish I was one of you! But why do those who do cook every evening feel the need to express their horror and disdain for those of us who don't

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:38

50% of Skerry's life isn't determined by 'choices' - surely you get that? Bobochic?

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:39

50% of Skerry's life isn't determined by 'choices' - surely you get that? Bobochic?

user1489179512 · 06/04/2017 10:40

Actually I wasn't, person. You cannot read minds because your name gets in the way.

ElisavetaFartsonira · 06/04/2017 10:40

I'm not sure why people should be so bothered by other people's choices. I have my own feelings and choices that are important to me and are important to my family's functioning. We'd all be miserable if it was any other way!

Speaking as a fellow cook from scratcher from a family where meals together are important bobo, I think they might be a bit more fucked off by your gripe about laziness. You can't really complain about people being bothered by others choices when you literally said you were disturbed by the thought of those who do it differently to you. Pot, kettle, black.

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:41

So, bobo - you lived alone without a table, what's that got to do with the price of fish?!

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:43

Whatevs, number -Backtrack all you like!

BoboChic · 06/04/2017 10:43

Yes. All three DC. But that doesn't mean that we haven't altered dinner time to work around constraints - we have and do. But fundamentally we sit down to dinner every evening, in theory at about 8.15pm. There are years when one or two nights a week are at a different time to accommodate a late afternoon activity - for example, the first half of this year DD had an activity on Wednesdays from 5pm to 8pm. DP picked her up on his way home (and in fact he changed the day of one of his activities to do this).

BoboChic · 06/04/2017 10:45

Elisaveta - there is a world of difference between finding other people's choices personally distasteful (i.e. I would hate them for myself) and attacking others for their choices.

user1489179512 · 06/04/2017 10:48

One does not need to sit at a dining table in order to eat a meal cooked from scratch. By the way.

BoboChic · 06/04/2017 10:49

You should probably bear in mind, Carl, that we live slap bang in the heart of Paris with many activities (including school, but also music/drama/art) on the doorstep.

TheKitchenWitch · 06/04/2017 10:49

Genuine question - where do you eat if you don't have a table?

user1489179512 · 06/04/2017 10:51

So are the people who cook properly every night - and I do not mean heating something up or pouring a bottled sauce over something - maki g more of an effort? Of course they are. That is obvious.

ElisavetaFartsonira · 06/04/2017 10:51

Elisaveta - there is a world of difference between finding other people's choices personally distasteful (i.e. I would hate them for myself) and attacking others for their choices.

There's not a world of difference between being bothered by others choice's, as you complained about others being by yours, and saying you're disturbed at people who don't do it how you do, though. And I'm not sure there's a bright line between calling people lazy and attacking them either: it's a loaded word.

Pot, kettle, black.

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:52

Oh, have you been here a while bobochic? The penny is dropping, the writing style is v similar to a poster of old JUST like you!

DameXanaduBramble · 06/04/2017 10:53

Erm, bobochic, you do also understand that Gay Paree is not the only fruit, oui?

user1489179512 · 06/04/2017 10:55

...making...

GetAHaircutCarl · 06/04/2017 10:56

Sure, bobo but when DC reach a certain level in many activities, the training sessions/practices/performances etc often span many nights per week and go on until later than 8pm.

Worse still is swimming which is early morning sessions before school ...oh how happy am I that my DC showed no talent or interest in that!