Snogging on the Tube

[UpsyDaisy123]

I am seeing someone new who likes to get very lovey dovey in public, particularly on the tube. We are both in our 30s.

To be honest I've always thought it a bit naf and slightly distasteful when fully grown adults snog on the tube. It's one thing for teenagers who live at home and perhaps genuinely don't have anywhere else to go. Or maybe couples who are saying goodbye for a very long time and go to do it discreetly in a corner late at night. But none of these things are the case here. He is keen to do it on trains and in the middle of a big crowds waiting for lifts where there is a captive audience, plus at the bottom of the escalators with people going by watching us in both directions.

AIBU?

YANBU I would hate it.

Most people would be aware enough to realise you are not comfortable with this behaviour. Sorry, but I also think he is doing it on purpose. He either doesn't care how you feel or actually likes that it makes you uncomfortable.

I'm not actually saying I'm not comfortable with him Goldfishjane but we've only been on four dates so I feel like I don't know him very well yet. For a start, I have no idea of his history and I am looking for a keeper.

If you are looking for a keeper, you need to be sure that he is looking for one too, otherwise you are wasting your time.
And if he is wanting to be your keeper there are more important features that he should be showing you than how often he needs to kiss.

Oh I hate this. I hate seeing other adults doing it (not so bothered by teenagers) and I hate it if my DP tries to do it. When I first met my DP he kept trying to do this,on buses and in the street,anywhere there was people around basically. I got totally hacked off with it,told him I didn't feel comfortable with it. It took me a few attempts to get through to him,but eventually he got the message and the most he will do now is holding hands and a peck on the lips. I told him there is a time and a place for full-on snogging and a crowded bus is not it! So no OP,I don't think YABU.

Yuk. I would hate that (but then I dislike kissing in general). DH and I hold hands, much to the disgust of DS, and I may occasionally cuddle into DH on a crowded tube rather than hold the bar, but public kissing is very ostentatious. It's like he's showing off the fact that he has pulled and has a woman he can kiss in public.

The fact that he is very keen to do it publicly would be an alarm bell for me. He sounds like he needs attention from a captive audience.