Hi, I just wanted other people's opinions on this situation or if I am being unreasonable and should keep doing what I am doing.
I am wanting to wait for my DM to call me instead of me always being the one to reach out to her just to see how long it is before she makes contact.
It feels like it's always me who calls her and asks how she is doing for a general chitchat. We go to see her in person once a month due to my husbands shift pattern, me working in a school, having DC who are also of school age and us living over an hour away.
The two times she does seem to call me are when she falls out with my younger sister and she calls me in tears with what my sister has done wrong this time, that she is never going to talk to her again, that she's gone too far this time and then a few days later her and my sister are as they always have been and their argument is forgotten. She'll also call me by mistake (this happens at least twice a week) and will go 'I didn't mean to call you, I was trying to call DSis' and before I have had chance to even ask how she is etc she has said bye and hung up on me.
When we do talk she doesn't ask how my kids are but will rave for ages about what my nieces have been up too and when I do mention my girls I am shot down with the great things my nieces have done or will be doing.
So not to drip feed... my mum is also the sole carer of my disabled uncle and has been for the last 19yrs and he is currently battling cancer. We also lost my dad to cancer nearly 4yrs ago too.