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To be sick of his selfishness?

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user1470064958 · 04/04/2017 18:02

Feeling at the end of my rope today with DH. We've been married nearly two years now and have a ten month old daughter.

Since having DD things have been hard which of course is expected with a child under a year.

The main issue for me is my husbands pure selfishness. He constantly moans we have no money and I keep us on a very tight budget grocery wise, DD clothes are paid for by me and bought second hand.

Whenever we need something for the house it's not even an option but if football tickets become available for said team they are bought without question.

Example being today worrying about a £9 spend at Aldi and then £200 being spent going away abroad to watch the team for a few nights with a friend of his. I'm so fed up and depressed at this point I feel resigned to it.

I think the only next step is some kind of counseling as anything I say falls on deaf ears

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 04/04/2017 18:07

Sounds like my exh. . To prove a point I went on shopping sprees and told him the cost of everything - still wasn't as much as his weekly pub night or his golf membership -
If he is keeping you short it's called financial abuse

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Justanothernameonthepage · 04/04/2017 18:32

Hmmm can you set up an emergency account he doesn't have access too, and for everything he spends from the joint account, the same amount of money is transferred to the other one. But yes to counseling and start getting records of all spending and income. Do you work/have income?

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LindyHemming · 04/04/2017 18:41

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user1470064958 · 04/04/2017 19:31

I'm not working as I was made redundant while on mat leave so that makes me feel a bit more helpless as well

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