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AIBU?

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To think you should take your kids into a fitting room?

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 16:41

High street store, late afternoon on the Easter holidays. Child is 9/10.

I've just wheeled my pr into the baby section and she's standing there in knickers. Clearly trying on a school dress or something.

AIBU to wonder what her mum was thinking? There may be a reason but can it be good enough to let your daughter change in public at that age?

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 16:42

*pr is pram!

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hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 04/04/2017 16:44

I wouldn't think twice about it to be honest.

Happyandhungry · 04/04/2017 16:45

YANBU

TheStoic · 04/04/2017 16:46

I wouldn't care at all, seeing it.

My kids would rather die a thousand deaths than do it, though.

ThePiglet59 · 04/04/2017 16:47

Were there queues of predatory paedophiles waiting for you to turn your back?

At least she didn't have leggings on.

mirime · 04/04/2017 16:48

I used to work on a childrenswear dept, and I think it's fine if the child is happy to do so but I saw children of that age who were clearly mortified in which case their parents shouldn't have insisted.

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 16:48

It doesn't bother me seeing it; seeing people naked doesn't bother me at all. But surely it'a a bit inappropriate once they hit puberty? They are likely to feel self-conscious and so are other people.

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PodgeBod · 04/04/2017 16:50

I would have been really embarrassed about that at that age. A lot of girls are becoming very aware of their bodies by 9/10 and are already starting puberty. I was wearing a training bra by 10. Did she seem upset?

sailorcherries · 04/04/2017 16:50

I always take DS in to the changing room to try on any clothes that require him to strip off. It's different if it's a jumper or jacket, but even I'd try a jumper or jacket on outside the changing room.

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 16:53

PodgeBod:

To be honest I averted my eyes out of politeness so I don't know! She was talking to her mum about the size, she seemed okay.

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TheStoic · 04/04/2017 16:56

It's up to the kid, then. If they don't care, I don't see the problem.

clearsommespace · 04/04/2017 17:02

On our high street there are shops that do kids clothes up to age 12 (no adult clothes) and they don't have changing rooms. We have to find a quiet corner and I use my coat to hide DD (her request).

harderandharder2breathe · 04/04/2017 17:07

I know 7 year olds who are hugely self conscious but I think if the child isn't bothered then it's fine but 9/10 would be pushing it with most girls accepting it

UppityHumpty · 04/04/2017 17:09

YANBU. It's ridiculous.

nineanimals · 04/04/2017 17:11

There's no way my DD would agree to that and she's only 7! And I wouldn't expect her to either! The parent is totally out of order!

1nsanityscatching · 04/04/2017 17:14

I wouldn't do it but would assume that at 9/10 the child hasn't been stripped against her will so most probably isn't embarrassed.

TheHuntingOfTheSarky · 04/04/2017 17:18

When I was about 8 I vividly remember my mum making me try a blouse on in the middle of M&S and being astounded (and very cross) that I felt embarrassed and didn't want to do it.

I'm 45 now and the memory has stayed with me, so you are definitely NBU!

NoBetterName · 04/04/2017 17:26

She's 9/10, she's still a child. I'm not sure what the problem is if she's OK with it.

I think it's a sad reflection of today's society that we feel the need to teach children to cover up from an early age. Why should children be taught to be ashamed of their bodies? She probably wasn't showing off any more than you'd see on any beach in summer.

Lugeeta · 04/04/2017 17:29

9/10yo's who have started puberty are far outside the norm in our school. They still get changed for PE at school together at that age so I don't think getting them to change in a shop is much different. I wouldn't have thought twice if I had seen it amd would do it to my child if the changing rooms were busy (mine wouldn't care at that age!)

MiaowMix · 04/04/2017 17:57

9/10 is very young for puberty though, and if the child isn't self-conscious, who cares? Highly unlikely there would be any men in the female chaning rooms anyway.

My ten year old is still a child, she is showing no signs of puberty, although out of her choice she wouldn't want to get changed in front of anyone. Can't fathom why you would mind though?

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 18:01

Highly unlikely there would be any men in the female chaning rooms anyway.

This wasn't the changing rooms. I don't mean she didn't take her into a cubicle (I wouldn't even raise Em eyebrow about that). This was the shop floor, between the children's clothes and the food hall.

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Trifleorbust · 04/04/2017 18:01

*an

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Smidge001 · 04/04/2017 18:05

I don't see the problem as long as the child is happy about it. I'd rather encourage them not to be embarrassed than the other way around. I do it myself all the time whenever the changing rooms are too full or too far away. (Well, bra in my case, so the essentials are covered up so as not to offend).

MiaowMix · 04/04/2017 18:40

Oh shop floor! My bad 😬. Yeah, that is somewhat surprising... my daughter has been self conscious since about 7 and would rather die than do that!
Odd one!

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