to find DH and his best buy relationship OTT?

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We have 2 children, 5 months and 22 months. DH works with this bloke so spends all day with him, and travels to and from work with him, and when he gets home will often park down the road so I don't know he's home and sit and chat with this friend before coming in, sometimes for up to an hour! They also text each other over the weekend when they're not together.

DH doesn't like to speak to me on the phone in front of his friend and often doesn't have time to text during the day but they have time to go to lunch together! It reminds me of the kind of intense friendship you have when you're a kid.

Is it me or is this a bit OTT and Brokeback Mountain?

Are you sure it's his mate he's texting all weekend/sat in the car with?

My husband, who has ASD, forms friendships like this. It's never been remotely sexual! He can chat on the phone for 2 or 3 hours if the topic is interesting to him and go out with one of his two best friends several times in a week.

But with children this young, he is being pretty selfish. Ours are adults, so it's not a problem but I couldn't have coped with it at that stage! He does need to be putting his family first now and for the foreseeable future really.

OP, it reads like you are withholding more information.

Addtobasket no it doesn't, it reads like op posted for opinions and is now busy with 2 young dc

"when he gets home will often park down the road so I don't know he's home and sit and chat with this friend before coming in, sometimes for up to an hour! "
I would read the bloody Riot Act to him for that. You are at home with a 5 month old and a 22 month old. When he finishes work he should be home sharing the care of his two young children and giving his wife some adult company. That his is ACTIVELY AVOIDING this is utterly dismal.