My Dsis has stopped getting me and my DH birthday gifts for the past 2 years. Fair enough I thought as she doesn't have kids and always got gifts for my 2 kids. I still got her and her DH birthday cards and gifts and made a fuss on their bday. My mum is ill so I overcompensate a bit for that and like to do what my mum would have done and I know that is my own choice. However this year she didn't get anything for my DD such as a card or a gift even though she came along to her party. My DD didn't really notice at the time but I was a wee bit surprised as she usually always remembered the kids and she did get something for my DS on his bday. Now its her husbands birthday next week, She has mentioned a few times about it to me today when they were at mine for dinner and talked about us (ie me) getting a birthday cake for the restuarant when we are out for a meal next week (not something we usually do for the adults). I would normally always get my BIL a card and a voucher. Do I go ahead as normal or do I mention at all my DD's birthday. DD is 10 and they are pretty close which is why I am a wee bit surprised she has forgotten. I know she will defeintly get gifts for my 2 nieces in a months time and that will grate on me a bit. She did say to me at the time that she had a gift for DD but it has never appeared. She is a bit touchy about things my sis so I don't want to make a big deal of things but also feel things should be fair for the kids and cousins. I have posted about this before when she didn't acknowledge my DH's bday and the consencus on here was that adult birthdays weren't always recognised which I accept but now that it is my DD's I don't know if I should say something or not. I am thinking it is hard to broach things with her and we think differently about things and there are only the 2 of us (5 years age difference) so I would like to be closer. Am I being petty -is this even worth mentioning in a subtle way or do I just carry on as normal if my DD hasn't really noticed?