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Dog snatched babies sandwich

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IsithormonesoramIamadcow · 02/04/2017 20:40

AIBU to think that it's not unreasonable to ask someone to put their dog on a lead....

When it's just come over to a family sitting on a bench having a picnic and chomped the sandwich out of a 17month olds hand - the whole of DS arm was inside the dogs mouth although the dog didn't actually 'bite' him.

I jumped up, shouted at the dog and asked the owner to put him on a lead. Explained he had just taken my DS hand as well as the sandwich. Dog owner paid no attention until DH lost his shit and threatened to deal with the dog himself... by which time our lovely relaxing afternoon had evaporated. Am I supposed to just be glad that DS still has all his fingers?

I am fed up with people saying their badly behaved off lead dogs are 'really friendly'. How am I supposed to know which ones are and which ones aren't.

OP posts:
kali110 · 03/04/2017 14:22

No, muzzling all dogs because some ownees are bad is not the answer Hmm

kali110 · 03/04/2017 14:23

And? People also piss and shit in the sea too Confused

WateryTart · 03/04/2017 14:30

No, muzzling all dogs because some ownees are bad is not the answer

It would work for me. Can't come soon enough.

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 03/04/2017 14:32

A lab who spits out a peanut butter sandwich, that isshocking.

smallchanceofrain · 03/04/2017 14:32

This thread has gone a bit off topic me thinks, but I'll run with it. My dog wouldn't be shitting in the sea. Partly because she hates water but mainly because she has to squat to shit. I guess she might shit at the waters edge, but I would bag it. Given that there are still places where raw sewage is discharged into the sea and used condoms and tampons can be found on beaches I think it odd that someone wouldn't want to share the sea with dogs on hygiene grounds. Not wanting to because you are afraid of them or simply don't like them I totally get and can sympathise with as DS1 used to be terrified of dogs.

blackteasplease · 03/04/2017 14:37

A dog once nicked a slice of pizza from dd when she was small. It wasn't a lab.

we were quite pissed off but not scared. We didn't really say much because couldnt get the pizza back. Owners were apologetic. Makes a big difference.

A dog came and pissed on a "sulpture" dcs were making out of grass the other day. That was annoying as we then had to stop. It had been with us with me telling it to go for a while and owners did nothing. It's a park where dogs are not supposed to be off their lead except in their own area. They eventually called it back. Didn't say anything as Dd hates a scene. Wasnt the grass thing per se as it's only grass. It was the fact we were clearly indicating we wanted the dog away for ages and owner did nothing, plus it's a leads onlu area of the park.

20nil · 03/04/2017 14:55

Because some beaches are polluted, I should be prepared to share the water with dogs? Ok, then. Let's welcome them into swimming pools on the grounds that they're not very clean either.

Actually I don't want to swim in any water with sewage, tampons or dog shit in it. I can't police all of these, but keeping dogs out is a start and dog owners can control that.

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 03/04/2017 14:59

But you can do something about beach pollution. You can report spillage, you can write to your MP and the media and ask for cleaner water and sand. If more of us did that we would make the water companies clean up and it's up to people to keep the beaches free of litter.

A dog swimming in the sea is the least of my worries.

20nil · 03/04/2017 15:06

Good for you. I didn't say it was my major worry, just that it's easily preventable.

Meekonsandwich · 03/04/2017 15:07

You cannot say "oh a lab can't help itself around food!!!

The majority of guide dogs are labs!! They're trained to leave good even if it drops on the floor!!

Its down to lack of training.

It's the equivalent of saying "well boys will be boys" er no. Teach your child not to be a little terror.

ChardonnayKnickertonSmythe · 03/04/2017 15:08

You seem to miss my point.

You can do something about your major worries if you choose to.

brickinitIam · 03/04/2017 15:11

I have a very large dog who is terrible for getting over excited around other people. He's a difficult dog due to his history...so as a result, we walk him where there won't be other people.
When my DC's friends come to play, the dog is tied up in the garden and the DC are told not to go near him.
Not because he bites but because he jumps up and has really strong paws with long claws....I don't want him hurting or even scaring any kids.
He's been trained etc but he's a Marremma and they're notoriously wild
I'd NEVER let him near children un leashed.

Why do people choose to have dogs that are very large and very aggressive and can't be walked near other dogs and other people?
I thought having a dog was supposed to add a nice dimension to family life.
So why not choose a dog with a friendly nature?

I can understand a person who has a very large property, either a smallholding or farm, taking on a 'large, difficult dog with problems'.

By why do people with families, and who live in built up areas take on a 'problem dog'.
Why? Confused

Badhairday1001 · 03/04/2017 15:18

YANBU as a puppy my dog once stole an ice cream from a toddler who had come over to stroke her and I was completely mortified. Any sign of food and she is on a very short lead now.

DixieNormas · 03/04/2017 15:25

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

brickinitIam · 03/04/2017 15:29

MsAd I'm not scared of dogs, but I don't want to swim with them. They do shit in there you know

I've never seen a dog shit in the sea.

I'm on the dog's side on this one. I love watching dogs swim - the sheer pleasure they obviously get out of it is a joy to watch. I could watch them for ages.
You can't deny dogs a swim in the sea Hmm

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IsithormonesoramIamadcow · 03/04/2017 15:38

Dixie be glad you can choose not to believe this. I am still getting flashbacks.

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LoupGarou · 03/04/2017 15:57

I can quite believe an 18 month olds arm was in the dogs mouth, we have a doberman and she's unusually big for the breed, I caught my three year old brushing her teeth, he's very tall for his age (wears age 7 trousers and clothes) but his whole hand and most of his wrist was in her mouth.

I will add that he was stopped from doing it so as not to take advantage of our ever patient dogs good nature!

LoupGarou · 03/04/2017 15:57

Meant to put although she's unusually big.

mollyblack · 03/04/2017 16:17

YANBU i hate many dog owners sense of entitlement, like we should all be honoured cause their dog is running all over picnics, stealing food and terrorising children. Do they really not realise that saying "oh they're really friendly" etc is completely moronic and irrelevant, My child and i are the ones who gets to decide whats ok for us, not some random in a park.

contrary13 · 03/04/2017 18:33

Isit, then I apologise. Perhaps I phrased it wrongly - but I have children, and I have dogs (always have done; grew up around them). And even as toddlers, neither of mine ended up with their arms in a dog's mouth, because I've always been hyper-aware of the damage that a dog's jaw/teeth can do to such delicate flesh. What I meant was "you were incredibly fortunate that your son wasn't hurt". And, frankly, your DH reacted exactly the same way that I probably would have. That dog should have been trained a damned sight better than it obviously has been... but for that, it would need a responsible owner, I'm afraid. Just as we teach our toddlers how to behave/react in social situations, so to do owners teach their dogs (or should).

There was no victim blaming (my, the hysteria at times on here!) at all. Nor was mine a gleeful tale (I actually was, and still am, disgusted by the fact that my mother allowed her dog to end up like that... and even more so since she's upgraded to a larger puppy whom she can't manage at all!). My dogs have always been trained and well-behaved. But then... they've been raised with children, and perhaps that makes the difference?

As for muzzling each and every dog, watery, how about preventing toddlers from throwing themselves bodily at strange dogs? How about putting them on leashes to control them? No...? Then why should a well-trained, obedient dog be punished just because some people have the right not to like them? I'm not a big fan of sheep, should I try to insist that they're banned from fields? Or should I simply be sensible and avoid the fields that they're in? (Which, incidentally, I would anyway because... I have two dogs!).

20nil · 03/04/2017 18:53

I'm happy for dogs to swin, but just not when other people are in the water. Lots of people, including small kids, are scared of them. Mine are.

Chardonnay; I don't know why you think you know what my 'major worries' are. I just don't want dogs in the water while I'm swimming. It's not major, just a preference.

I have seen a dog shit in the sea, at the edge. Owner didn't pick it up. Not very nice.

20nil · 03/04/2017 18:54

Didn't mean to derail by the way OP. YANBU

mypropertea · 03/04/2017 18:55

My inner bitch says you should have told them it ate a load of dark chocolate and grapes then directed them to the nearest vet. Not very nice for the dog though so maybe not.

kali110 · 03/04/2017 19:32

contrary13 yes agree contary.
Let's put all the kids on leads who decide to go up to random dogs and touch them without asking because 'oh they just want to pet him' Confused
Not the childs fault, it's the parents, but still,no thought not.

WateryTart · 03/04/2017 19:37

Yeh, well the award for stupidest post goes to kali

Kids are little humans, and far more important than mutts. If you can't understand that seek help.

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