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NDN is trying to highjack potential buyers viewing our house.

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AmberStClare · 02/04/2017 15:36

Am currently selling our house and have found out my NDN is being very intrusive with anyone coming to view. They have lived next door to us for about four years and have always seemed OK, don't know them that well but they have been quiet and considerate so no issues with them. They are not the reason we are moving.

They are having extensive work done on their house and the wife is very excited about it and thinks everyone else is fascinated too. Knocked on the door on some pretext and asked if she could come in. FWIW she has never been in our house before which shows we are not that close. Suggested we might like to have copies of their architects drawings and display them for our vendors to look at as 'they would love to see what is going on next door'. My feeling is vendors are only going to be interested in how the work affects them noise wise etc and nothing else. Was polite and said leave them and I would tell the Estate Agent as they are doing the viewings.

Next time I see the wife she says she has just happened to be in the front garden when several people have come to see the house. She has had 'long lovely chats' with them and told them how lovely everyone in the road is and they are having work done and happy to show them. Yesterday reached a head when a friend came to see me for a coffee. Within minutes of her arrival NDN was on the doorstep asking if someone was viewing and maybe she could come in to meet them and have a chat.

I have mentioned to the Estate Agent who thinks she sounds unhinged and thanked me for the warning. They are going to arrive early so they can guide people straight into our house.

Anyway WIBU to tell my NDN to fuck right off.

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EweAreHere · 02/04/2017 17:07

Yikes! That could well put off buyers. Hopefully, you'll be able to nip it.

missymayhemsmum · 02/04/2017 17:08

Accept the kind offer of the plans, if the houses are identical it shows what is possible, especially if it adds something they might want such as an extra bedroom or bathroom..
Ask her to leave your buyers in peace (people don't like being put under pressure, and they're looking at lots of houses) but offer to introduce her to her new neighbours (once you have exchanged)!

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AmberStClare · 02/04/2017 17:17

Thank you everyone, is very reassuring to hear other peoples opinions. Neither of us got to sleep last night until past 3am as we were fuming with NDN about the latest incident (when my friend was visiting).

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blueskyinmarch · 02/04/2017 17:22

You can’t leave us hanging like that - what happened when your friend was visiting?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/04/2017 17:30

It's in the OP, bluesky

limitedperiodonly · 02/04/2017 17:30

It won't be counted as a dispute if your husband tells her to fuck off but I think you should let the EA handle it. He or she is likely to be better at it.

I despair of seeing raising ordinary neighbour stuff referred to as a dispute that might jeopardise sales on here. That and allowing people to create rights of way because they cut across your garden. Sorry, I digress Grin

That said, she does sound like a bloody pest. What happened at 3am?

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AmberStClare · 02/04/2017 17:31

Blue sky, she tried to push past me into the sitting room saying she must talk to them as they really would want to hear everything about the plans.

No not really!

I just said it wasn't convenient for her to come in and shut the door. I ddn't tell her why. She hung around for a bit outside (we could see her faffing in her front garden) but went in after a while

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blueskyinmarch · 02/04/2017 17:32

Oh yeah - so it is! Blush

limitedperiodonly · 02/04/2017 17:32

Oh, I see. Not 3am, just what she did yesterday

TheAntiBoop · 02/04/2017 17:33

Could you go round and say that viewers had commented that they are finding her a distraction and she may be hindering the chance of getting lovely new neighbours? Dress it up that the estate agent has said they want to view the house 'clean' and her plans will be on offer if any of them show interest in doing work

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AmberStClare · 02/04/2017 17:35

3am we had shared a couple of bottles of wine and couldn't sleep so were making up silly stories of things to tell the NDN about different vendors.

We gave up when we got to the circus troupe who were going to erect a trapeze in the garden.

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JaneEyre70 · 02/04/2017 17:48

I think you have to say something...........next time you see her and she asks about viewings, say the EA has fed back to you that prospective vendors have been concerned hearing that the neighbours are having a lot of work done, and that you are hiding something!!
That should shut her up. Failing that, put barbed wire around your front garden and say that your DH is practising for a new security venture.....!! She sounds batshit. And would put me right off.

Trollspoopglitter · 02/04/2017 18:04

I think you need to rope your EA into coming in and when she lingers, let the EA have a quiet word with her and tell her that the viewing feedback has been a concern about an overbearing / intrusive neighbour. And that she is actually driving away prospective buyers and the EA will have to break this news to you just now, which he/she is sure is not going to be great for your relationship.

And have the EA advise to maybe allow them to do their job in selling the great neighbourhood and find some lovely family for the house please? Otherwise, you will be unable to sell the house and will blame her for it - and the EA can attest those sort of situations never end up well. You might find all sorts of issues with their building works and tie it up for months and months, it just gets very nasty very quickly

PovertyPain · 02/04/2017 18:22

I think you really need to tell her to back off and that she's actually putting people off. Tell her if you can't sell,you will rent it out to students, as a shred house, etc, or what ever group she wouldn't want beside her.

If I put my house on the market, I would have to be honest about the, many disputes, including police, I've had with my neighbours. They really are trash and when the pensioners beside them, shared drive, had viewings, they would deliberately park their car in the middle of the drive. The dear loves sold to a landlord, in the end, and love their new place. I don't give a shit about the dispute as I don't plan on selling and if the harassment starts again I will move (mortgage free) and rent my house out to the roughest, nastiest people I can find. 😁

PovertyPain · 02/04/2017 18:24

*shared, not 'shred', that sounds a lot scarier. 😁

KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 02/04/2017 18:27

She sounds like a handy burglar deterant.

Could you include her as a feature?

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AmberStClare · 02/04/2017 19:11

She has just knocked on the door and asked if we want to go in for a chat later this evening to hear how the bulding work is going. Er no, we are washing our hair!

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 02/04/2017 19:24

No no no - wrong tactic! you should go. And you should make comments along the lines of "oh dear, did you get rid of all the lovely original features? What a shame!" "Not really my cup of tea, I like the original stuff" "What's that? uPVC windows?! in a house like this??!!" etc.

She'll never darken your door again.

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AmberStClare · 06/04/2017 09:57

Just met the foreman of next doors builders. Informed me as from next Monday they will need access to our side entrance to carry rubble and earth round to put in NDN's skip. Asked him where he had got the idea they could do that and he said he had spoken to my DP who had agreed. I replied no way did we agree to that and he said but you must your NDN says she doesn't want mess in her house. Also your husband says we can. Told him my 'husband' doesn't tell me what to do so think again.

Builders are currently tooth sucking in next doors front garden and glaring at our house.

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AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 06/04/2017 10:17

Have you had a word with NDN about her hassling potential buyers? Anything further to report?

Cherrysoup · 06/04/2017 10:24

The builders can walk through ndn' house with rubbish. Tough. They have no right of access, I presume?

You need a serious face word with ndn to say you don't care about her renovations and could she please stop putting off viewers by hijacking them. She sounds potty.

blueskyinmarch · 06/04/2017 10:24

Did your DP agree to this or are they just making that up?

Dizzy199 · 06/04/2017 10:51

I love trollspoopglitters idea. If the EA isn't up for it do you have a friend who can pop round in a suit and pretend to be the EA?

Although you sound like you might be heading for a falling out over the builder crap anyway.

I would imagine prospective buyers will be a little worried to see what looks like a right of way through the garden and random debris littering the lawn that's been dropped by the builders (my dp and df are builders, trust me on this one!).

That's assuming they have managed to avoid bsc ndn and her leaflets about her wallpaper choices and carpet samples and have got into the house in the first place...

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 06/04/2017 11:12

Good heavens - why wouldn't you let your neighbour's builders traipse through your property with rubble, just so her house doesn't get dirty, @AmberStClare? What planet is she on - or to use the MN phrase, is she on glue?

TheAntiBoop · 06/04/2017 11:12

You're going to have to get a lock for the side gate of you haven't one already

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