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To consider wine is the appropriate response - My 3 yr olds temper tantrum todays have included....

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TotallyFF · 01/04/2017 17:33

3.5yr old DS - very intelligent, very full on and always been a more 'intense' child - love him to pieces but so far today (and this is just a really small handful of the episodes):
Half hour shouting because he wanted to go swimming but his shorts weren't 'red' enough - we then went and had a lovely time swimming - afterwhich he decided the dog needed a swimming pool and attempted to flood the bathroom.
After enjoying art - 20mins screaming that clay wouldn't dry instantly - he then covered himself in paint (I literally was just taking things to the sink - the child moves at super speed!!!)
After playing a board game - 20 minutes screaming that he didn't win - then a further tantrum that his brother no longer wanted to play with him.
In addition, Mash potatoes wasn't 'mashy' enough, the dog wouldn't bark on command and I insisted he wore his socks when we were going out...
And topped off with a half hour strop that I couldn't fulfill the wish of buying him a 'real life, flying unicorn' as a pet.....
And it's not even bedtime yet!!!
This is said light-heartedly and though he is full on 99% of the time, the tantrums are normally more associated with growth spurts etc - but my goodness I need wine! Anyone else?

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FairytalesAreBullshit · 01/04/2017 20:20

I feel for you OP, DC can be entertaining but challenging. Def have some wine, get ready for tomorrow.

Rainatnight · 01/04/2017 20:27

You all need this in your life

www.reasonsmysoniscrying.com

crumble82 · 01/04/2017 20:31

This makes me feel better. My DD (3.5) had a tantrum yesterday because I told her that she couldn't marry me, her father or her sister when she grew up.
Today's main tantrum was that I wouldn't let her wear odd shoes to the play park...one of them was a glittery high heeled dress up shoe!
I'm enjoying my 2nd glass of wine 😁

CatsRidingRollercoasters · 01/04/2017 20:31

To continue the lighthearted theme, you should all watch this (be warned - it's very rude - don't let your toddlers watch it because they will only use it against you):

hazeyjane · 01/04/2017 20:32

It would be easier to list the times ds hasn't screamed today

When eating a chocolate cookie
When eating a pork pie
When watching play doh videos on the iPad.

Sod wine, I am on the rum.

CesareBorgiasUnicornMask · 01/04/2017 20:42

DS (2.8) had (only!) three major tantrums today. The first was because he asked for tuna pasta for lunch and I then made it for him...

The second was because having 'helped' me build an IKEA desk, he discovered it's not for him to live in, it's for mummy to put boring stuff like paperwork in.

Finally, he sobbed for half an hour because DH put him to bed instead of me, and then when we swapped continued crying because DH had left.

SpreadYourHappiness · 01/04/2017 20:44

Yes, it's lighthearted. I think chat would have been a better place for this thread if you didn't want to hear any YABU's.

NoCryingInEngineering · 01/04/2017 20:45

You are thistledew. I remember DS sobbing his heart out at that age because he was emptying a drawer and then it was empty and he couldn't figure out what to do next

Cutesbabasmummy · 01/04/2017 20:48

Spread Your Happiness YABU! Just to fit the thread....! I've just had a lovely gin and tonic which was very relaxing- must be an alcoholic!

Waffles80 · 01/04/2017 20:53

Is there a section called Am I Being Sanctimonious you could join, spread?

Wallywobbles · 01/04/2017 21:01
Grin
Cynara · 01/04/2017 21:20

Just rtft, nicely timed as I'm drinking my second glass of wine and eating a creme egg to get over ds's tantrum caused by not being taken to nursery (it was 6pm. He goes to nursery 2 days a week. Today is not one of those days). Wine for you all. Except spread who can have a Biscuit

froofroomcgoo · 01/04/2017 21:28

My 18month old had a tantrum as I wouldn't let him eat the dust/ cobwebs/ dead leaves under the front door step Hmm I sometimes wonder if I should just let him get on with it!

MumW · 01/04/2017 21:36

YANBU. Definitely Wine or even Gin

I remember thinking I probably had a problem and needed to get myself some me time when I came home from the school run and thought I could really do with a glass of wine. It wasn't even 9am.Shock

smallchanceofrain · 01/04/2017 21:36

DS1's best ever meltdown was because the beach was too sandy. It lasted 40 minutes. This was the same day as his famous, "The ice cream is too cold!" tantrum. Toddlers can be hard work but it does pass. He's 11 now and a great kid. Yesterday I saId, "There's no wine!" He said, "You're just going to have to curb your rage without it."

EnglishRose1320 · 01/04/2017 21:43

Ds2 doesn't often have tantrums, thankfully we are passed the biggest ones, he is nearly 7. Bedtime this evening however and it was late (Oh has to do everything atm, I'm on bed rest post op and he is struggling but trying hard!) Ds2 has clearly picked a fleecy onesie and oh has declared it too hot to wear it, discussion follows where ds2 decides it should go away in the roof with the Christmas decorations then, oh says fine and jokingly says 'get your Easter pjs on instead' ds2 was distraught, he doesn't have any Easter PJ's, how could we be such terrible parents that we have never got him Easter PJ's. Oh find a pair of knight PJs and proceeds to explain how they are Easter PJ's, the knights had to find the cup from the last supper that Jesus drank out of etc... DS thankfully seemed to accept this and fell asleep as an Easter knight.

DesignedForLife · 01/04/2017 22:02

My 2.5 year old has discovered full pelt, shatter glasses, screaming. For no reason. I need earplugs.

Didiplanthis · 01/04/2017 22:11

waffles drink wine tonight - lots of it. I took my twins on a plane when they were 2. I have refused to renew my passport since !!! We had a brilliant holiday though if that helps...

StubbleTurnips · 01/04/2017 22:15

Ahhhh we've had one of those mofo days....
Best tantrum of the day was refusing to take her to the wool shop, this is due to her behaviour last time in the wool shop and her epic tantrum in it. Can't fucking win!

MumW · 01/04/2017 22:19

Am I the only one wondering if we fast forward a few years to when Spread has toddlers that we may find she has changed her tune? Or AIBU? Wink
She wouldn't be the first.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 01/04/2017 22:27

3yo and 5yo just constant screaming at glass smashing levels all day.

For things like shoes not being on the wrong feet and knickers not being hats

Applebite · 01/04/2017 22:30

Mine is 18 months so the temper tantrums haven't started yet, although we get so much pointing and whinging when she doesn't get what she wants.

The trick of "chuck it on the floor/out of the bath/buggy and then scream because I don't have it any more" is so awful. Worst. Game. Ever.

Wine
StubbornCustard · 01/04/2017 22:31

My DD doesn't tantrum yet at 16 months, but screams with frustration right in my face. It's only a matter of time before she starts flinging herself to the floor or smashing her head against a table. I have ear plugs...and wine.

0hT00dles · 01/04/2017 22:57

Can I just say thank god I'm not alone! We were dragged to the park in the pouring rain. She is very, very bright-so gets frustrated and always has done. But my god was wine needed tonight- so here's some for you🍷

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads · 01/04/2017 23:02

Today - because we couldn't eat the frozen pizza until it had been cooked.

And because it can't be bedtime because the sun was still shining (and my tantrum was because I have to answer that one every bloody year, even if ).

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