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Aibu, would you be annoyed by this?

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Cocklodger · 01/04/2017 15:42

Hi, I gave a fridge freezer to a friend a few months ago.
He was very grateful, obviously I took no money etc. Now he's moving abroad, and is getting rid of It, fair enough. One of our mutual friends has asked for it and he's said he can have it for "mates rates" of £50, which is a very low price (it's one of those big "posh" American type ones, very expensive and in v good condition) aibu to be a bit annoyed and think it's a bit cheeky to be charging for it when he got it free?
I did raise an eyebrow at the time as I was there during the conversation and got a almost snippy "I need the money" from the friend selling it. I said nothing about it, I know in a way it's none of my business, and bizarrely I feel a bit more annoyed about him selling it to a friend than a stranger, but would you be annoyed? Aibu?

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pudcat · 01/04/2017 15:45

I would especially if I was there when he said the price.

TinyBarista · 01/04/2017 15:45

But surely it is now his, to do with as he pleases.
(Or was a gift from you, with invisible strings attached.)
YABU.

toldmywrath · 01/04/2017 15:46

Yup. I'd be annoyed as well.

Gatehouse77 · 01/04/2017 15:46

It would annoy me but I wouldn't let it affect the relationship. I wouldn't offer anymore freebies though.

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Cocklodger · 01/04/2017 15:47

I know Tiny I guess I am being U in that respect, I just think it's a bit mean to profit from two friends. I won't say anything, but I suspect he knows what I think on account of my eyebrows raising right up to my hairline

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KateDaniels2 · 01/04/2017 15:48

Yabu. Its his.

TinyBarista · 01/04/2017 15:49

Yes I can see that.
Positive outcome - now you've seen this side of him - he's moving abroad Grin.

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Cocklodger · 01/04/2017 15:50

😂 silver linings and all that! I guess it's a split really. So I'll deduce I'm being a bit U and move on with my life 😀

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ImperialBlether · 01/04/2017 15:51

Of course you're not unreasonable! Why should that money belong to him and not to you?

newmumwithquestions · 01/04/2017 15:53

I'd be annoyed. I give things away to friends that I could sell, partly because I'm too lazy to bother selling but partly because they're friends and it's a nice thing to do. I'd charity shop or give away something I was given if I didn't need it any more.

sirfredfredgeorge · 01/04/2017 15:53

If he really needs the money, then he needs the money, you presumably care enough about him to give him an expensive fridge, so now you can care about him enough to just accept that he needs the money.

So yes it's pretty crappy thing to do, and because of that you can assume the guy is either a cock - in which case why are you giving him a fridge - or he genuinely needs 50 quid right now.

dudsville · 01/04/2017 15:55

The thing that's annoying is that he isn't "paying it forward". His ethics differ from your yours and that's grating.

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Cocklodger · 01/04/2017 15:56

I think he's being a bit of a dick tbh, but as you say he probably needs the money (hence why I've butted out of it really) I know moving can make you haemorrhage money at the best of times let alone thousands of miles away!

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Darlink · 01/04/2017 15:59

He's being a dick

lanbro · 01/04/2017 16:01

We gave a load of bedroom furniture to some friends, who then decided they didn't want the bed and sold it on to an acquaintance. They then gave us half the money, not asked for but the gesture was appreciated

Bluetrews25 · 01/04/2017 16:13

It was very kind of you to give him the item for free. If he had more manners than greed need he he would have offered it back to you. Pretty cheeky.
Anyone seen FB posts - collecting items 'for a friend' who has nothing - often wonder if things get sold on. nasty suspicious mind here

ShowMePotatoSalad · 01/04/2017 16:17

He's a dick but you can't do anything. As soon as you give something to someone, it becomes their property. He can sell it if he wants. But morally it's not right.

WizardOfToss · 01/04/2017 16:18

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witsender · 01/04/2017 16:19

Yanbu, cheeky to do it in front of you and make out he is doing them a deal.

Tartyflette · 01/04/2017 16:22

I think I would tell the mutual friend he's selling it to that you gave it to him for free....
He should offer to split the £50 with you bearing in mind that you'd probably decline the money anyway but at least then he'd be doing the decent thing.

MargotLovedTom1 · 01/04/2017 16:26

You are supremely daft generous giving away an American style fridge freezer in v g condition for nothing. There's nothing you can do or say about your friend's actions, although it is galling to see him profit.

KidLorneRoll · 01/04/2017 16:26

Why does it matter? You obviously didn't need the money, maybe he does. Not really any of your business.

ShiroiKoibito · 01/04/2017 16:28

theres a person on my local freecycle who has been replacing the same items for months now

Hi im after iver a laptop or a pc as boatch ov mine have gon rong "

Hi im after a pc or laptop as mine was lost in a house fire along with all my belongings. So if anyone can help please.

Needed XXX please as mine was lost in a house fire.

and this person has an ebay account with a rating of 3.5k...

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