to be pissed off at DP dictating the household rules?

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I have always had dogs and they have always been allowed on the sofa. I put a throw on one side they're allowed on and I alternate and wash it every few days. The DC love snuggling with the dogs to read, draw or watch TV - as do I. This morning DP decided he doesn't want dogs on the sofa anymore (the sofa I bought, I should add) and threw their throw out saying they are making it smell. Obviously the dogs are still going on the sofa but without the throw now, so they actually will make the sofa smell. He keeps moaning at the DC and I to tell the dogs to get off if we see them on there but didn't actually consult us on this new rule. Downstairs is open plan so the room can't be closed off and unless he's going to watch the sofa 24/7, his rule is impossible to enforce. One of the DC got annoyed at him shouting at the dogs and said we'll just buy a new throw when he's working away next week and he's made it clear he expects me to enforce his rule

This may all be a bit more acceptable if he backed my rules up, but he doesn't. Our youngest is 2 and when I brush her teeth, I just do it and tell her she can't walk around with the toothbrush like she usually asks to do. She accepts this. However, when he brushes her teeth he let's her walk around with it which means she brushes it on the walls/floor/toilet which means her teeth can't actually be brushed because it needs to be thrown away and it's then up to me to replace it. Then next time she asks me to walk with it and I say no, it causes upset but he still keeps doing it. He says me asking him to just brush her teeth is dictating to him and he'll do it how he sees fit.

AIBU to think he shouldn't be dictating rules that aren't working for the rest of the household and then expecting me to deal with the aftermath?

I'd be inclined to laugh at him and say "who made you God?"

YANBU.

I have never lived with a dog, but if they have been used to getting on the sofa for years it seems very unfair to be shouting and screaming at them as they try to lean a new rule. That has to be hard for them.

You should get him a cat. Once he's had one of those crawling over his face at 3.00 a.m. and puking in his shoes, he'll stop moaning about the dogs.

The sudden dictatorship would worry me. Why is he trying to flex muscle at this time. The dogs have been allowed up on the sofa for ages and he suddenly decides it is not on.
Another worrying thing is that you say it is your sofa and you bought it. That does not sound to me like a joint life. If you are working to pay for household goods is he contributing enough to the household or perhaps holding back on money.

You have a 2 yo who is the youngest. That would indicate at least 3 DCs in all. If you are working and coping with 3 DCs or more while he works away I think you are doing a bit too much perhaps.
Do you have a higher income than him. Is he feeling a bit fragile about his position to cause some flexing of muscle.
Think this through very carefully before you make any decisions. I would not have a dictator in the house.

Does it matter who bought the sofa? Just wondering if there is some back story, as another poster mentioned.

Iwould tell him that you disagree and try to work out a compromise if you are able to. Surely the throw stays on the sofa until the dogs can be encouraged to sit elsewhere anyway!

hope the dogs make it make it back on the sofa with a lovely snuggly new throw

stilldrivingmebonkers

And supervise your child in the bathroom whilst she cleans her teeth

Absolving the man from all responsibility?

What does he say when you compare the dictating toothbrush stuff?