To not mind taking DP to work?

[WasabiNell]

He's been without a car for a few weeks now and I've been taking him to work and picking him up on my way home. I honestly do not mind, he's contributing to my petrol and it's only another 10 mins either way plus it's nice to have company in the car when usually I'd be alone .

He's making a massive deal of it though?! Saying he feels terrible I have to drive him and keeps suggesting he'll get a bus/ pay for a taxi. He doesn't seem to believe me when I say I DONT MIND taking him!! He's just text me now saying 'shall I walk down to the main road tonight to make it easier for you, sorry for being such an inconvience I feel terrible about you picking me up!!'

So AIBU to drive him to work when it's fine by me and it's him making a huge deal out of it

Well yes there is always that 🙈

Maybe mister . It's making me feel bad that maybe I'm not approachable enough to ask for things?!

If you're out anyway, and it's not a huge time commitment, lifts are probably cheaper and quicker than the bus anyway. I sometimes pick my DP up when he is working late and would either have to get a taxi Or pay a lot for parking, but we share money so it benefits me too.

Or does he feel that your stopping him from walking and getting fresh air and exercise?

Perhaps you're a really bad driver OP and he's scared for his life!!!

Or does he feel that your stopping him from walking and getting fresh air and exercise?

No because he used to drive himself to work!

Renaissance that's an excellent point .

I'm off to go collect him soon so will ask him then!

I think he feels guilty and feels he is putting you out - hes clearly used to being independent and doesn't want to be a problem for you

He sounds a very thoughtful man

I agree with Lady and Pink

Me and my OH are a bit like this.

It's probably a male ego thing. Cars are seen as phallic objects. I'm sure he would love driving you if the roles were reversed, but he probably feels like less of a man by relying on you to drive him in your car.

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I think he feels guilty and feels he is putting you out - hes clearly used to being independent and doesn't want to be a problem for you

He sounds a very thoughtful man

Nothing to do with male ego
It is a pain, for most people to go out of their way to give someone a lift to work - means you catch more traffic, or have to get up earlier, or all the car parking spaces are full or whatever, and on the way home means you have to coordinate your finishing times etc. . He appreciates that and is letting you know if it gets too much, he has alternatives. If you quite like spending those extra 20mins chatting to him each day, then say so

I didn't ask in the end because he was stressed from work and it wasn't the right time. Just got in from an evening out, thanks for all the replies