Parents staying and getting it in the neck from them and dh

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Parents are staying for a record 6 weeks this time.

Dh has retreated into his usual pit of doom, and only talks to moan (if ds used this voice he would be sent to time out). I told him this morning if he couldn't say anything nice, not to say anything at all.

My dad has deliberately stuffed up everything he is asked to do, so we stop asking him (as per usual for first week). And he is incapable of letting 2 children play together without joining in himself, so I can't bear to have playdates here as he terrifies them. He has no idea when to leave alone and had one child in tears at ds's birthday party.

My mother is racist, but apart from that is not doing too bad this time.

They are both obese and straining my furniture.

I can't even do 2 days with PIL so I have some sympathy with dh. It was easier in the past because the cleaner cleaned up after them, and they are trying to help.

I have 2 more weeks before they go on a trip for a week.

you poor thing - it sounds like hell. I don't think I could do it......

Oh God 6 weeks

Poor you. I can only recommend lots of long soaks in the bath (do you have a lock on the bathropom door?) and trying to get either them or dh to have the kids so tht you can get out on your own for a few hours every so often.

It sounds unbearable!

oh, yes, greensleeves so right! I remember now that last time the outlaws were her I had gastroenteritis and was never happier to be tucked up in bed and so excused all listening to complaints and insults.... am planning to be ill for all future visits...

Absolutely no problem with babysitting - I feel as if I haven't seen ds for a week - it's just that I get to do all the fun stuff like cook endless meals (and then my dad makes 6 more sandwiches a couple of hours later because I only gave him the one plateful of food).

One of the reasons dh is so miserable is that he feels like a spare part - he reads ds a story at bedtime and apart from that he might as well not exist.

I'm just sick of picking up bits of newspaper, and having an audience during ds's cello practise. The only time I got to spend time with my son "alone" was during a hospital appointment.

He's at kindy now and they are out in their car.

Sorry to laugh but the "they are both overweight & straining my furniture" has got me in hysterics!

I suggest you carry a hip flask!

I hesistated about posting that bit - but the stuff I have can groans every time they sit down.

OMG - I know it is anyhting but funny from where you are sitting...but your dad terrfying all the kids....it made me LOL.

We have this with DPs mother.

Could you arrange a sort of secret rendezvous with your DH to whisper about how awful your parents are, and have a giggle together? Let him know that you do agree with him - nothing made me madder or made me feel more isolated in my own home than DP tryiong to stick up for his full-strength-witch mother.

Could you book them a nice surprise one night- tickets for the local theatre or something, and you have a nice evening with a bottle of wine and a takeaway with DH?

Can't get them out of the house of an evening and believe me I have tried.

We had the same thing with PIL when they visited us on holiday for 3 nights. I was most mad about the fact that dh seemed to take their side or no side all the time, than about them particularly.

I spent 20 minutes shouting at him on a long walk while he said nothing and then we started laughing about their silly ways and it was much better after that.

I will make sure he knows I agree with him, but I can't make them lose 50 kilos, stop talking loudly, slamming doors (except when they leave them open when the airconditioning is on).

At least he has a car - as the car I use belongs to them I am a bit stuck for 6 weeks.

Why hesitate, it made my night!

I really do feel dreadfully sorry for you, visitors for any longer than a week are an enormous strain!

Em, I meant to write weekend not week!

visitors that stay overnight are a strain

Hopefully the parents have left now as this thread was started 15 Years ago 😂🤣🤣😂😂🤣🤣😂🤣😁

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