Bit of a long one, don't want to drip feed so bare with me.
Me and dp have been together 10 years, have two children. For our whole relationship he's struggled with finding/keeping work as he has one real passion in life, and hates doing anything else. It took me a little while to come to terms with it and be supportive, So now I'm sole breadwinner with no hope of him getting a 'proper' job. He became the stay at home parent while I earn enough to sustain us.
We've been bobbing a long rather nicely for the past 3 years, with our situation being mutually beneficial to us both once we were settled in our own routines. But a year ago, he had a breakthrough. And now, although he's not earning much money at all, he's finally making the headway into the profession he's dreamed about since he was 5 years old. He really is good at what he does, but in truth I don't think I ever believed anything would come of it as it's such a tough industry to get into. And now, he's never home if I am. I can't take on extra hours, so we're more skint than before, as well as using family money on top to fund and further himself to make a bigger impact. He's in demand, and while I have no doubt he'll soon be earning money, he's become emotionally unreliable, physically unreliable, and when he is home he's on his laptop working.
Perhaps this sudden change in his availability, meaning he's not around when I need him, and his emotional distance is making me wobble on our relationship. I've supported him for so long, and now i feel forgotten about. Or should I remain supportive and ride this out? I don't know.