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[foxanddaisy]

Have NC

Was visiting a relative at the weekend, they do masses for us in fairness as I am a single parent on my own with a child and on a low working income.

Anyway long story short we had been talking about the hairdresser we all go to and relative said why didn't I book in (been at least 18 months since I went). I said that I would on work pay day but they insisted that I went that day and they would treat me as it was Mothers Day weekend, I refused several times but they insisted, when they looked they did not have enough cash on them so I was told that if I paid for it myself they would give it back to me when they ran us home and would nip to the cash machine.

I had a job interview a couple of days later and so went, I then went to get some food shopping for the dc meals and they give dc pocket money to spend each week, they always say to me to give the dc their pocket money and they will give it me back if we are going somewhere before they have had a chance to get it as it is the only time the dc are anywhere near shops so I did and picked up a couple of items for them while going.

Only there was a bit of a crisis in between then and us going home and the car was unsuable so we ended up walking home so I did not get the hairdressing money and the dc did not get their pocket money.

This is absolutely fine, I am not grabby and the kids are not bothered in the slightest and never even mention if they don't get their pocket money.

The thing is I am thirty pound down, thirty pound that I needed this week for packed lunch and food stuff and electric (pre pay meter) and it has left us absolutely fucked. I literally have £2.40 electric and around £3 in my purse.

They owe us nothing, they do loads for us and a couple of months ago when our freezer defrosted and we had no money to replace they sent us food to help and refused to take money when I got paid.
I also feel shit as I know they now have car costs to fix.

But we are really really fucked.

God that all makes me sound like a grabby bitch :(

Oh, and I would absolutely want to know if my thoughtlessness had put someone in this situation

I hope you get it sorted soon OP.

No tins, one pint of milk, no eggs, no cheese, no bread.
Probably enough for two spag bolts and one pasta and sauce without meat.

Meals are like a café at school so pre payment on thumb print.

I don't qualify for free school meals despite earning under 16k as I qualify for WTC which isn't due yet either.

Bugger I'm going to have to speak to them.

If it was me I would have hated to have put you in that situation so i'd be honest with them. They will appreciate it more than you hiding your struggle.

Don't feel bad about the food bank though..that is what it's there for.

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If you call the school they should be able to credit you some lunches, they will want to help if they know you are so hard up.

It would be the electirc that would worry me most, unless you have anything you are willing to sell then you will have to let them know. I am sure they will understand if they are helping you out often then they must know that money is tight for you?

They probably don't understand quite what a difficult situation you are in. They're unintentionally thoughtless, and would, I imagine, be absolutely mortified to learn what a mess it's left you in. I certainly would.

Please tell them and get that £30 you are owed. It's not something to be ashamed of, in fact they are the ones who should be ashamed, though I imagine this was just sheer lack of awareness other part.

I would ask in a way that you are asking for their help rather than money back.
Just say, I have a job interview and have no food in and only have £2.40. Could you lend me a bit to see me through to Tuesday.
Maybe that would work?