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Hi my child is currently in year 2, she has been having some difficulties lately with spelling/reading etc I've discussed it with the class teacher and they suspect dyslexia, as do I, but nothing can be done until she reaches her 7th birthday. A couple of days ago 2 mums approached me (separately) asking if my daughter was ok, I replied with yes why? they said there children had got home from school and explained how the class teacher had ripped my daughters work up in front of the class as she had done it wrong, my daughter proceeded to cry and was apparently told by the teacher to "shut up you baby". I asked my daughter if this was true and she said yes and got very upset, I asked why she hadn't told me and she said she didn't want to get into trouble by the teacher as she new I would go into the school. I went into the school the next day and had a meeting with the safeguarding officer/teacher explained the situation and was told he would look into it. Went to a further meeting later on in the day with the safeguarding teacher and daughters class teacher. Class teacher came across as very confrontational completely denied any wrongdoing and pretty much said the other children were lying, my daughter was called into the meeting and questioned by the teachers, started crying and denied that it had happened. after leaving the meeting my daughter said that it did happen and repeated to me what the teacher had done, she wasn't aware what the other children had reported to their mums and the stories matched, I asked her why she hadn't spoken up in the meeting and she said she was scared she was going to get thrown out of the school. unsure of where to go from here any advice and input would be greatly appreciated :) sorry just to add my daughter is struggling with the work and I feel her self esteem regarding school work is low, she has said on occasions that she is stupid, obviously I have corrected her on this and am really trying to boost her up all the time

Jellyrolly thankyou for your advice and I am sorry to hear about the treatment your son received. Its horrible to think that you send your children off to school and this is how they are treated! I am going to email the Headteacher as she's unavailable to speak to me in person or over the phone and if she doesn't follow it up will get in touch with the governers.

Allthewaves, a teacher in my DD school is well known for ripping up work. Even when parents have complained they've been told it's a trusted method she's been using for years and the Head sees no problem with it 😐

So she says she didn't rip up more of your DD's work than anyone else's, and she ripped up the first drafts for the whole class because (I assume) they didn't need them?

Does your DD have any idea why she would rip up more of her work than everyone else's?

To be honest, the first thing that would have occurred to me here is that she didn't realise she was doing it. Unless she gave a reason for ripping up all her work, which is pretty odd otherwise.

No, sorry, I read your OP - they were wrong. Does your DD know why the teacher considered the first drafts to be wrong? Did the problem also apply to her other drafts?

Sorry, am just trying to see whether there might be a (roughly) logical explanation...

metalmum15

Allthewaves, a teacher in my DD school is well known for ripping up work. Even when parents have complained they've been told it's a trusted method she's been using for years and the Head sees no problem with it

That's awful. My ds would be distraught if their teachers did that to any work, even a drawing doodle.

Allthewaves, I think so too. The teacher is actually extremely well liked. DD is hoping to get that teacher next year, I'm hoping not....

My ds would be distraught if their teachers did that to any work, even a drawing doodle.

We have boxes of 'Art' in the attic. I hope when Dd is older we can maybe select a couple from each age/stage to keep in a scrapbook or at least she can take them to her house and they won't be my problem anymore!

I would guess the children were reacting to your daughter's upset rather than the tearing up of work. While it doesn't help to make it any more of a big deal to them, the adults in this situation shouldn't accept that as a suitable way of 'marking' at all though.

Thank you, he doesn't go to school any more now as his needs are fairly complex. He's doing really well at home so a good outcome.

It's worth being aware that in an Infant/Primary school a high proportion of the governors will be parents so what you write won't necessarily remain entirely confidential so stick to the facts that you know. It might also be worth having a look at their policies - should be on their website - as they will probably say things like "all children treated with respect" and all that sort of thing, which you can use in quote in any letter you write.