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AIBU?

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to hate this teacher?

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faithinthesound · 28/03/2017 00:54

Tertiary level. I'm an adult. She's teaching me.

I am never the only one talking, but I am the one she singles out to reprimand, every single time. No, I shouldn't be talking when she's asking us for her attention, I'll own that, but as I said, I'm hardly the only one. Yet it's always me she singles out, never any of the other offenders. It's always me she scolds - in front of everyone else in the class. I've never seen or heard her reprimand anyone else.

Am I being unreasonable to think she's horrible?

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Falafelings · 28/03/2017 09:45

You've probably got the loudest voice or probably cause the others to chat.

Next time keep one eye on the teacher throughout the lesson. It must be very frustrating for him/her. It's easy to predict when teacher needs concentration. Read the signals.

Willow2017 · 28/03/2017 09:53

If you were talking in a class I had paid to attend and disrupting it I would be telling you to shut up never mind the teacher!

How old are you? 5?

Why on earth would you be talking when someone is trying to teach you something? How disrespectful is that?

Don't "own" it you sound proud of the fact that you cant keep your gob shut. Just grow up!

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faithinthesound · 28/03/2017 10:11

WHY do you even need or want to chat during the class!
Because she breaks us into small groups and asks us to discuss (whatever it is), and then when she calls our attention back, some people haven't finished their thoughts.

But like I said, I see from the responses that I'm BU.

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PicturesOfYou · 28/03/2017 10:21

I teach children. When I break people into groups or talk partners on the carpet and call them back to attention, I always factor in time for them to finish their thoughts and refocus attention.

As do all teachers. We understand someone might be in the middle of a sentence!

But for you to be pulled up on it repeatedly suggests that you are continuing with sharing your thoughts for longer than is appropriate. Surely you understand that there is a focus and intended outcome for the lecture/session and that if she allows you to just carry on with your conversation, then you and she will run out of time.

PicturesOfYou · 28/03/2017 10:22

And when I say children, I mean 4-11 year olds and they all understand that they have to stop talking. Some of them choose not to and they are the ones who get pulled up on it.

Hogs · 28/03/2017 11:00

Ok, well it usually takes a few moments to get the group back together for whole class discussion after being split into smaller groups. Are you perhaps not hearing her say "finish up now folks, we

Are you, or your group perhaps off-topic? It's easy for small seminar groups to descend into general chat and so the seminar lead does need to steer groups away from that.

Hogs · 28/03/2017 11:03

Sorry half my message disappeared! It should have had an extra small paragraph in there about different teaching styles!

Some people give a warning that the group task is coming to an end, others just say "time's up" and expect all eyes front etc. So, if it's an issue from continued group discussion spilling over, just keep an eye on the time.

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faithinthesound · 28/03/2017 11:04

In the first couple of sessions we did get a bit off track, but she made it clear that she really didn't like that so we've been more mindful of it since.

But yes you're right on the "few minutes to get back together after being in smaller groups" - that's exactly what's happening.

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mrsBeverleygoldberg · 28/03/2017 11:07

Why are you talking in a lesson? You're an adult so presumably have self control? You're there to learn. Really?

PandaPolar · 28/03/2017 11:10

Are you the eldest in the group?

Trifleorbust · 28/03/2017 11:12

when she calls our attention back, some people haven't finished their thoughts.

Oh dear. Your thoughts don't come before her right as the teacher to refocus the lesson and move on. I get this all the time: "I haven't finished writing" - er, yes, you have, because it is time to move on.

Do you expect her to repeat herself like a parrot?

PicturesOfYou · 28/03/2017 11:14

Hogs : few moments to get the group back together

OP : few minutes to get back together

I think that therein lies the problem.

A few moments and a few minutes are very different things, OP.

TheElephantofSurprise · 28/03/2017 11:14

Never hate a teacher.
Always do what you are supposed to be doing.
Never do what you are not supposed to be doing.
If you do the above, you will achieve more than you otherwise might, and your life in class will be peaceful and perhaps even happy.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 28/03/2017 11:17

You do sound terribly childish. The use of the word hate for a start!

Grow up and shut up maybe.

Hogs · 28/03/2017 12:12

It does take a while to get used to the dynamic of the classroom but, honestly, your teacher will have a lot of material to get through in the seminar. Having to interrupt groups who have "not quite finished" can be frustrating as it can take time away from the material which you, as the student, need to learn.

I'm truly not trying to be overly harsh, but trying to help you get the most out of your seminar. If, say, you're given ten minutes for small group discussion, then keep an eye on the clock and be mindful of keeping on topic.

RortyCrankle · 28/03/2017 16:53

It'a hardly rocket science is it - shut up and she will have no reason to scold you.

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