Wedding thank you anxiety

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We got married last October and due to a mixture of anxiety/procrastination and being incredibly busy (moving house, doing up house, dealing with two kids) we haven't yet done our thank you cards.

I suffer from anxiety and often build up small things and stress massively over them. And that is what I have done here! If we had done it straight away it would have been fine, but now I feel like we have left it too long.

I'm so anxious about it I can't sleep. I know that sounds silly but as I said I build things up in my mind.

Should we do them now or is it too late? Should we just leave it???

Break it down. List of presents, print the labels, buy the cards, write the cards: You only need to put Dear Jane, we hope you had a nice time at our wedding, we did and so enjoyed sharing it with you.

Just writing to ay how much we loved the bed linen you bought / how useful the set of saucepans have been. Thank you so much for choosing so thoughtfully.

With love from

I'd love to get it "late". It would be a lovely reminder. I think I'd like it better than getting it soonier

Not weird to do them now :) we're still sending ours out from our wedding in December, they're going in dribs and drabs. We wanted to wait to get some lovely ones printed with some pictures on and so that we could send copies of pics to family with the thank-you cards :)

I think it's one of those that, once they're done and gone, it'll be a big weight off your shoulders :)

I had this exact same anxiety after we got married with thank you cards. And then again after DS was born and I was poorly for a few months. It kept me awake at night and occupied my thoughts constantly, overshadowing nearly everything I did as I was constantly thinking "I need to do those thank you cards, oh God".

I cannot tell you how much relief I felt once I did them. Felt like a changed woman. You will too.

I went to a wedding in May, one in August and one in November.

Coincidentally, I received lovely thank you cards on the same day for all 3 weddings, in December.

I didn't think any less of the couple who married in May than I did the couple who married in November

Do them this weekend.

Do them! Nobody will be thinking badly of you now but you will feel so much better when they're done. We waited for our photos and didn't get the thanks sent for about three months and nobody cared...

Better later than not at all. The latter is rude.

Buy small cards, you can get packs of A6 cards in supermarkets or m and s. then all you have space for is a thank you for the gift, hope you had as lovely a day as we did and hey presto you are done.
But if you are really anxious then just don't bother. It's a nice thing to do but not essential
Kxxx

I'd still send them. You can always make time. It won't take long.

You really don't need to stress about it, you haven't left it too late at all. People realise that you're busy after a wedding and you may be waiting to get photos back so you can make thank you cards. I wouldn't expect to receive a thank you card quickly, if I did I'd probably think they were an irritating super organised type who likes to make the rest of us feel bad ha ha!!

I gave my friend a present for her new baby in November and haven't received a thank you card, I'm sure she will get round to sending them out but I don't think it's odd that I haven't got one yet.

Just press on and get them done now, you'll feel so much better!

I didn't know people still did them, to be honest. I called the person up and said thank you