To 'f' it and leave my job!! Today

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I've never quit a job before - but I have a boss who appears determined to get rid of me. I've had performance reviews etc and I'm doing my job effectively - I've been in my profession since I was 16 and now nearly 47. My boss is a decade younger than me. She wants to do things differently from me - but keeps changing the goalposts. I'm now at my wits end - I've developed eczema in the last few months - directly related to my job. I tried to leave in January but was convinced to stay. My union believe I may have a case for constructive dismissal. My GP wanted to write me off work for 2 week for stress to see if my eczema disappears. I've been told by the consultant I also need to have a break from work. The last straw was winning an appeal to work from home only for my working from home conditions to look like I'm being subjected to a performance review. As I said no issues with my work. The managers I manage have never been off sick and we meet all our deadlines with quality work. I can't go into too much detail but I want to go. Have two DC - 8 and 4 and my whole family are urging me to go - apart from DH who wants me to stay until I find another job!

Allthebest I agree and it seems to have increasingly become the new LTB on here. I wonder how much people know about the complex mechanics and risks involved in CD. not much

It can seriously jeopardise a person's livelihood to give inaccurate info. Yy to getting legal advice.

Taking time off for stress is a helpful way to repair physically and emotionally. It is in your best interests to get an appointment with your GP as eczema is a manifestation of stress. And support from your Union + ACAS if needs be are also good options. Take care.

I have a meeting today - in a few minutes in fact... Part of my job is legal so All I wouldn'#t be doing that any way.

If you can freelance and have other options potentially, then yes. What I wouldn't do is leave with nothing to go to. Particularly not at your age, since we live in an ageist society.

I do note that your union think you might have a case for constructive dismissal though. That's potentially very different to a few people on here who know sod all egging you on. Compromise/settlement agreements are often useful in this sort of situation.

Your boss sounds like a cow. But- am I missing something? Your doctor wanted to sign you off with eczema?? Eczema is often stress related, I agree, I've had it all my adult life, but no one has ever offered to sign me off work with it.

Thanks for all your advice. Okay my HR lady and my union rep sat down with me and they have to some extent allayed my fears, HR have convinced me to stay and see it out. I'm going to stay until I get something else. Though I don't think this will be the end of it, but I feel reassured that someone is in my corner so to speak.

Inspace Because my hands have got so painful I can't type or write; which is a big part of my job.

Are HR doing anything about your manager now then?

The cynic in me says that HR is putting a sticky plaster over the situation rather than address the root cause.

Id still consider being signed off because your eczema needs to heal based on your GPs diagnosis. If you cant do key things like writing and typing you are not in a good way if you dont mind me saying.

Allthebestnamesareused Mon 27-Mar-17 10:48:07

DO NOT UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES RESIGN ON THE BASIS OF CONSTRUCTIVE DISMISSAL UNTIL YOU HAVE TAKEN LEGAL ADVICE.

Who told her to resign without legal advice????? yes to look for another job, yes to seeing gp about getting signed off, even yes look at what the union are saying about constructive dismissal. But noone is saying put in a letter of resignation on the basis of constructive dismissal and then see what happens. I don't know anyone that would be advised by the union to do that! The union would be pointing the person to legal advice, either their own or a private firm. What is wrong with that? Or do unions recommend resigning on the grounds of constructive dismissal without legal advice!!!!!!

Yes daisy however I have further appointments and a full patch test regarding my eczema so nothing is over yet. In the meantime will try and chill and find other work.

I went through constructive dismissal last year and ended up with a payout which allowed me to have the time to job hunt - seek legal advice!

Willitbe, in fairness I have seen many times on MN "go for constructive dismissal" far too quickly but minimising what is involved then it becomes an urban myth that people just post without knowledge. Dont underestimate people who go down a tangent when they cannot afford legal advice and may be clueless about the facts so think the answer to their problem is CD. In fact the other day someone said "Ker Ching" which reinforced the myth even more.

Going through constructive dismissal is horrible. The whole experience is stressful. It is stressful in the job before you start the legal bit, it is stressful right til the conclusion. If the issues can be resolved it is great. But is is definitely not an easy road.