AIBU or is my gut instict right?

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My DHs brother and family live in a different country and his wife did something quite odd. She texted my DH to ask him if she (on her own) could visit us and dates etc. She has recently setup a family whatsapp group which includes me, DH, my parents-in-laws and her husband- she didn't put up this request there but texted my husband separately. Am i reading too much into this? I find it rather odd. If I mention my feelings to my DH, he'll probably say I'm over analysing it...what should i do?

Mind you if I was the sil and knew how you felt (do you really think she's coming on to your dh??) I'm not so sure I'd want to come and stay now!

I would imagine it means she's coming over for a bit but doesn't want the whole hoopla of parents who'll get into "when exactly are you here and we can go see x and y"

lol at some of the answers here

Petal I read that as she was coming over for a 'bit' - like for some slap and tickle.
And i thought 'well that's not going to help op!' and then i read on.

As you were.

Bizarre thread alert-what do you think is going on? Do you think she is shagginv your husband? Do you think she should have asked you?

I would always ask these sorts of things privately, rather than in a group chat because it can be a bit awkward for somebody to say no, and, as PP have said, maybe she doesn't want to /won't have time to visit PIL so doesn't want to let them know.
Maybe she is trying you first before she turns to the PIL because she would rather not stay with them by herself.
Your husband is the link between her family and yours. Her husband would most likely just ask him, too, if he needed something.
She could have created another group chat with just the 3 of you but why bother when either one of you can answer the question.

What's odd about that? You are being paranoid. My husband is in a family whatsapp group (some family live abroad) and I'm not. Doesn't bother me in the least as my husband lets me know anything that I need to about their visits etc.

@wowser well in that case I'd understand her not wanting to tell pil...

Maybe she wants relations with both of you. But thought she'd clear it with your DH first? If he minded having 2 women in the same bed as him, rather considerate really.

Joking aside if you suspect what others are saying that it's targeted at DH for inappropriate reasons. There must be more to this than a simple text.

Do you think she is shagginv your husband? Do you think she should have asked you?

What, OP wants to join in the shagging?

This isn't how I expected to start my Monday morning.

Also expecting OP isn't impressed

Could it be a surprise she's planning? Did she make it very very clear she's coming without her husband?

I find it odd that you find it odd - unless you have further context to make it something potentially suspicious.

I can't believe anyone replying to this seriously thinks this woman is plotting to steal the OP's husband but I suppose there's always one.

Sooty - fairly certain there hasn't been a poster thinking that - all the answers are tongue in cheek

It was pretty much a Monday morning giggle, OP has gone missing too. Context would be awesome!