A thought on Mothers Day

[minionsrule]

Hi, first post I've started, not really wanting replies but just to make people think.....
Ok so over the years we get repeated posts on MD about DH forgetting/buying crap last minute present/not getting Brekkie in Bed etc/Kids playing up etc and lots of people reply (and I agree) that its just another day - nice to get a treat but in the grand scheme of things not the biggest of problems...... you are quite entitled to feel upset, that is your right, however I would like you to just pause for a moment and think of people less fortunate on this day......

• women who would love to be mums who cannot have a family or are desperately trying to have a family and wonder if they will ever have mothers day
• people who have lost their children
• elderly mums who's kids don't visit or call
• kids who are in care
• kids (or adults) who have lost their mums

And for those whose DH's are generally crap and never make any effort, then maybe worry about the other 364 days of the year they are crap, not just mothers day.
You have beautiful children, you are a mum (overworked like the rest of us), your kids love you even if they haven't remembered a card or lavish present, your DH probably loves you as well.
A card and a gift (whilst yes nice) on a specific day of the year does not change any of this - be happy for what you have and cherish it.

This isn't a bashing thread on how people should or should not feel, just a bit of perspective.

Happy Mothers Day to one and all x

Nope, OP, that doesn't totally wash with me. Like others have said, it's all relative.

My 10yo DS hasn't said Happy Mother's Day or written out the card DH got him to give me. He has spent the entire weekend being a hormonal 10yo and trying to spoil any peace and goodwill .

My mum is dead, my husband is recovering from serious illness and I have struggled with infertility in the past. Although those issues are bigger than a 10yo's silly behaviour, today I am still entitled to feel irritated with him and slightly hurt that he has chosen selfish and unkind behaviour over being reasonably pleasant for one day. I can feel this way and still be grateful for the good things I have - which I very much am

I understand the sentiment OP, but YABU.

As a single mum with an EXP who has never done a thing for mothers day I do feel sad today. And I believe justifiably so.

I'd like to be appreciated. As would many women. It's hurtful any time of the year but on a day when social media is all about lavish gifts and meals out, it is very difficult to suck it up when you have been left high and dry.

If course there is always someone somewhere worse off, but people cannot help feeling hurt on mother's day if they have been led down. Again.

While I'm feeling shitty today because I will never be a Mum and also have no relationship with my own mother I still feel sorry for the mums out there who got no recognition from their DH/DCs. I don't think that because I'm miserable everyone else ought to be too.

That said I do think that the Mothers Day thing has got out of hand. In my day mothers got a card and a little boxed orchid from M&S and were happy with that. I fume at that Boots ad where there is whole hamper of gifts like that ought to be the norm.