Is pasta and rocky road squares a bit of a rubbish meal to feedback to a friend for lunch

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I'm unemployed at the moment so don't have much money.

My friend pops round every Saturday and she has some lunch at mine. All I do is something cheap and simple.

Today I'm making homemade enchiladas and a rocky road tray bake for dessert.

Is this okay do you think?

I don't do anything exciting as it's an informal visit where we just relax and chat over a coffee. I don't invite her for lunch specifically, it's just a case of her calling round to say hi.

She's never complained but I just feel a bit embarrassed as before I lost my job last year I would have done something a bit better.

Sounds lush! I was assuming you meant ready made rocky road and plain pasta.
I very much want enchiladas now

Yup, I'm well aware it's taking advantage but I've chosen to do it for now.

I thought enchiladas were made out of tacos or something

I had a friend pop round the other day end up staying for lunch so had a bacon sandwich..

She was more than happy..You need to stop taking a sandwich to hers.

You are enabling this.

I was expecting a post about spaggetti with rocky road sauce. Honest. That was the only reason I clicked ashamed.

Actually it sounds lovely and I've been in your friend's situation and I often, if not usually, bring lunch (naice cheese and things) or shout a pizza, fish and chips or a sit-down restaurant meal. I do this willingly because I love my friends and want to treat them.

Where do you live? The car is ready and waiting

(Cheap and simple would be PB&J on toast or leftover-whatever-we-had last night. Or bacon sarnies, I seem to make lots of bacon sarnies whenever people visit)

She could at least provide pudding if you're doing the main!

Yes sounds yum.

Seems an odd thing to be worrying about if she can't even spare you a sandwich when you visit her

Why the need to impress her OP?

Why do you take a sandwich though. What would happen if you didn't?

I always bring a sandwich with me if I've not been specifically invite to lunch at someone's house. Unless they invite me to have food I feel it's rude to expect others to feed you.

I don't invite her for lunch specifically, it's just a case of her calling round to say hi.

Unless they invite me to have food I feel it's rude to expect others to feed you.

So you are acknowledging that is friend is rude, but you still think she has the right to criticise your choice of meal? Why?

No it's a perfectly good lunch. What did you used to cook her, unicorn steak?

I think it's weird to take your own lunch to someone's house unless you have an allergy or something. Weird as fuck. Taking something to share like a pudding, bottle of wine etc fine. A sandwich to eat while your friend makes her own or has nothing weird.

We live very close to town centre and BIL and his wife often park at ours and walk in. Then they buy lunch for themselves in town and bring it back to our house to eat alongside the brew we provide usually DH and I are in the kitchen doing wtf faces and flicking the V's while they watch TV and spill chicken tikka mayo everywhere. Or we clock the car and go out.

1 - that's a fine lunch

2 - she doesn't sound like a good friend

3 - taking a sandwich to someone's house is weird - either go at a different time or eat at a different time

yes I often feed people when they end up staying,

She comes every Saturday.Is not invited for lunch but stays all fine ..However you both know she is invited to lunch if you are going to that much effort..

PP had the idea why don't you suggest I'll do a lunch if you bring the pudding..It could transfer over to her house too.. I would be a bit if someone bought a Sandwich to mine for lunch..I would be in that situation. I couldn't make myself something nice because while they sat eating a wilted Sandwich but equally wouldn't want to starve.

Can I ask why you're asking? Has she said something about your lunches (which sound lovely btw - keep a bit of rocky road for me!)

Wtf? I would feel so odd taking my own food with me- like a school kid with a packed lunch.
Tbf I do get the need to feed people I blame growing up in a big Mediterranean family but if she's just stopping in for coffee does she even expect it. I'd just make a cake or pudding and do soup or something.

She doesn't sound like a good friend

Anyway at my house she'd be getting bread and cheese!

The part when you say you bring your own meal when you go to hers, that doesn't sound very good. Do you realise this? You say it's not worth arguing over as you value her friendship, but does she value yours? Don't make excuses for her.

Give her homemade soup and she should count herself lucky.

How has she the face to eat from u so often yet she doesnt return the favour?

What is it with these weird 'I feed them but they take advantage of me' threads lately? I'm sure this is the 3rd one I've read in the last week

If that's what you make for friends when you're unemployed - can we be mates please??!!!

I was expecting a post about spaggetti with rocky road sauce. Honest. That was the only reason I clicked.

Glad I'm not the only one!

And I'm also glad I'm not the only one to disappear up my own arse about what I feed people - although I'm getting over it. DP and I decided it was better to invite people round more informally and feed them something simple (but with effort put into flavour and presentation) than me get my knickers in a knot trying out something flash and new and us both being stressed out for days beforehand. After all, the actual point is spending time with people you want to spend time with - or am I missing something?