to still have age restrictions for 18 yo? WRT internet?

[Everleigh]

We have restrictions on our wifi (no pornographic material) that's the only thing that's set, everything else there is no restrictions. My mum seems to think I'm being ridiculous and he should be able to make that choice for himself now he is an adult. But then she says she wouldn't have had restrictions on from about 14+ as it's natural so as you can imagine I'm hardly going to be taking her advice.

AIBU?

I agree with Gallavich. He's proving that some men can multitask. One hand holding the phone and the other.......anyway!

This thread does beg the question.....how much porn is your mum watching?!

It is perfectly reasonable to set whatever restrictions you like on your home wifi but as an adult he will be out of the home a lot & be able to view whatever he likes. A bit naive to think that you can control an 18yr old.

I find the concept of an 18 year old's granny being concerned that he can't access youporn quite amusing.

It however the decision of the person that owns the house and pays the bills, so not unreasonable to have your router set to prevent porn watching. Also, it'll help him gain some IT skills as he learns how to by-pass such restrictions.

Totally reasonable. Why would you risk your son or other household members having history of very dodgy sites on computers. Of course, in an ideal world they'd always make wise decisions but kids don't and silly curiosity can lead to all sorts of problems. They might bev18 but anyone with young adult children knows full well they ARE still kids.

FreeNikki I guess that depends on the kind of relationship you establish with your children. I certainly had similar conversations with my mum, as did my brother, and we've grown up with very positive and healthy attitudes towards sex. I'm not saying you discuss it in detail but you absolutely should be able to talk to your children about sex and porn. Otherwise they're floundering in what can be a scary world.

The impact of unfettered access to porn on young people is frightening, not to mention how it shapes their lifelong attitudes to sex and I don't care if it's a difficult conversation, it's absolutely one I'll be having. And my DH - who grew up in the opposite household, one that just never talked about sex EVER, completely agrees that it's incredibly important, having had to deal with the consequences of not having any guidance from his parents in his own life.

I can just imagine the conversation

"Son, your Gran thinks I should change the broadband settings to let you watch porn"

"Ewwwwww mum, why is Gran even having that thought? Ewwww".

Son runs away and hides.

I can assure that both your son and DH look at points. It may be silk and stockings rather than chickens and dogs but every man does. Some are just really convincing liars

How on earth does your mother even know about this?

If he has a smartphone he may just be turning the wifi off and using his data to watch, so it may not bother him that you have it blocked from broadband?

He will just be watching it on his phone so won't give a shit.

Everyone should have it blocked who has adults living there (and teenagers) who might view illegal material.

Even when our children were adults we had it blocked because if they viewed illegal material we could be arrested as we work
with children.

There's no way to PROVE who's downloaded it as it's the same IP address.

We have it locked NOW just so we can give visitors and adult children the wifi password when they visit.

YANBU for restricting access - as the billpayer you are perfectly entitled to restrict it however you see fit. At 18 he can get himself a mobile contract or his own wifi dongle and watch it on that, if he so chooses.

I'm sure he can stream porn on his phone anyway

I think it's a bit weird, but your choice, you're paying for it.
He's probably watching on his phone anyway.

How does your mother know ? Did she try to watch porn at your place ??

Weird lady

on a different note. found this funny pic looking through google pics. Unrelated to OP's post. Just funny

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I asked my husband to put the restriction on my phone because I don't want to accidentally see pornographic images and he has the blocker on his phone and other devices too. We object to porn in our household.

Ours is blocked. I don't want to come across it. I don't want anyone else to, either.
And 18 maybe technically adult, but it's still young to manage addictive behaviours. The sex we are exposed to when we are young shapes our sexuality. It's helpful that the extremes of porn are not part of that process.