WIBU to have no bedroom?

[peeriebear]

I have three DCs, two bedrooms and a boxroom. Currently I can not move house; it isn't feasible. DCs 2 and 3 share the bigger room but it is becoming evident that they can not share for much longer (fairly large age gap, boy/girl)
DD1 needs a room to herself as she has SN. So she has the next smallest room and I have the box room. I am single and I hate the boxroom, I lie awake in there and normally sleep on the sofa. I don't have much stuff in there. So would it be weird and U to give my room up for youngest DC and have no bedroom?
Obviously when the time comes that we can move I will have a room again, whenever that will be.

It sounds like you're fine with it, so go ahead! But as nobody else has mentioned this other option, what about sharing the big room with one of the two children who currently share? You say they're a boy and a girl, could you and the girl share? Maybe get those bunks with a double bed on the bottom?

Go for it. We did something similar when living in a tiny two bed. It worked.

Thanks for all your suggestions. :) We have tried the bunk bed divide but it doesn't work very well in their room. I may very well go and chuck my mattress in the shed tonight and start moving furniture!

We managed to divide a 12 x 8ft room into two box rooms for DS 1 and 2. It was a tripple window so that split well. Stud wall, slightly extended coridor and two independant doors. Both have built in high sleepers, underbed seats, desks and clothes storage. DD has the box room.

When the elder two DC were little, sleeping in the lounge wouldn't have been an issue for me but as they get older, eldest now a teen, i'm often getting ready for bed before them. I'm up with youngest (and autistic eldest) throughout the night whilst the three DC can lie in or be up at crack of dawn.

I do like my space and they each like their own spaces, even thought they're small.

You can make almost anything work with determination. I think it wouod help to plan how longterm this arrangement is. A year or two fine. But what about with teens and their friends over? Will they all go to bedrooms or ypu all share the lounge and stay up?

I think it depends on the size of your kitchen.

I have lived in a shared house where all the rooms were occupied, and the shared space was the kitchen which was fairly big. We couldn't really have parties because we didn't have a lounge, but we could still have a visitor or 2 and meet in the kitchen.

I have a bed in the living room! It is sort of L-shaped so I can tuck a full mattress in there. It's actually a guest bed now but I plan to sleep there as soon as my daughter is keen on her own bed and room. I love it and keep lots of pillows and throws on it during the day so it looks kind of like a bohemian-style day bed!

And my parents slept in the living room for a number of years while I was growing up.

It's a great idea. Could you make it a condition that the DC who gets the bigger bedroom should have to make space for a wardrobe for your storage? That might also make it feel fairer! (e.g. one may have a bigger bedroom but they have to share with your 'stuff').

YANBU at all. You are a lovely Mum

Google tiny houses for inspiration.

My aunt had 5 kids mixed sex in a 2 bed. She had a corner sofa downstairs that converted into a sofa bed. The living room became her bedroom past a certain time. Worked fine for them.

Yanbu, that's how it works in lots of parts of the world.

Couldn't DD1 have the box room, you separate the Other DC room, you could either look at getting a wall separating or use something like Habitat cube boxes or screens (like those tall ones) and you have DD1's room?

That means at least you all have living room.

My SIL and her DB bought a 2 bedroom flat but then decided to rent out the smallest bedroom and her DB as a student (she worked) slept on a sofa bed in the living room. He had Habitat boxes for storage against one living room wall.

However if people came over and he wanted to go to bed then bedtimes had to be stricter. Also he had to keep the sofa bed area with bedding etc tidy. But it worked well for them.

We have recently done this, and the living room, becomes a bedroom at night. It's much cheaper than moving house

The sofa bed needs to be decent though, and easy to get in and out so it doesn't become a hassle. That's just us though. And thanks to DFS and credit, we got one

Can't you share with the girl DC in the larger room if it's that sharing between the boy and girl isn't working? At least have all your stuff in there.

Not weird at all!

I grew up In a 2bed flat, with 2 parents and 2 siblings. My parents slept in a pull down wall bed in the living room that looked like a cupboard during the day.

There were built in cupboards in my brothers room where they kept all their clothes etc. my brothers stuff was kept in the room that I shared with my sister.

Ditch the shed and buy a caravan?

Sounds like a great plan for space saving, and something your kids will really appreciate you did fine r them when they are older. You can get lovely sofa beds now (on 0% credit if needed) And all sorts of fancy storage solutions but kids clothes don't really take up much space I could easily share a wardrobe with my son. A friend I went to school with had three siblings and lived in a three bedroomed house and their parents slept in the living room on a sofa bed and you would never be able to tell through the day.

Also how great for movie nights with all your kids to have a full sized bed in the living room

I knew a woman who did just that. Eventually they put up a partition and she got her own room again, but there's nothing wrong with using the sofa as your bed, and giving a child a proper room.

Could you not give the three children a room each, but get a double wardrobe for the largest bedroom so you still have somewhere to put all of your clothes, or maybe divide all of your things between the three bedrooms, like clothes in one, maybe makeup and hair accessories in another if you put a dressing table in the bedroom for your daughter?
That way at least your children all have their own room as you want, but you're not then having to find somewhere else around your home to store your things?