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to be so angry?

34 replies

Margaritaisme · 23/03/2017 13:38

Relations in my shared house have broken down because one flatmate won't stop having her boyfriend here to stay. He is regularly the last one here in the mornings, and often stays until midday (after the rest of us have gone to work for 9am).

Things came to a head fairly recently when he used a different mode of access to leave the house, rendering the front door inaccessible (long story) and meaning that we had to get a locksmith out to let us in. Housemate and boyfriend were nowhere to be seen and left us to do this ourselves...

Since then, we agreed on new house rule that all guests should enter/leave with the housemate who they are with. She has consistently flouted this rule, and when pulled up on it, has accused me of bullying the boyfriend (who I hasten to add, doesn't and has never contributed a penny).

We also agreed that keys should not be left outside the house (they were the only ones who did this, compromising everyone's safety and personal possessions)!

Today things got even worse as I was home by myself (they didn't know this) and could hear him in her room, by himself. He had her key and left at around midday (hours after her), hiding the key outside...

I'm so angry! She is not talking to me at the moment and will be moving out in 2 months, but I am infuriated by the way she continue to treat me and other housemates and blatant disregard she has for us!

Help please

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Cynara · 23/03/2017 22:00

Well just message back "what keys?" You don't know anything about her keys, do you? If she chose to allow them to be left outside, it's hardly your problem if they go missing...

Margaritaisme · 23/03/2017 22:04

Other housemate told her we were disappointed with how she has acted re situation earlier so she has clocked. I replied asking her why she had done this and she messaged back saying "sorry, just leave them out for me please". Have told her we need to have urgent talk

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 23/03/2017 22:11

Oh sorry flatmate but your bf had them - can I assume he will be paying rent now then?

SuperFlyHigh · 23/03/2017 22:57

I'd be very PA about this, your flat mate sounds like a demanding madam who wants things all her own way eg boyfriend staying over more than allowed, keys left out etc

I'd say now I'm going to inform landlord of what she does, puts ball firmly in landlords court and if her property incurs higher costs eg locks changed that's down to her and her boyfriend being careless leaving them out. Oh and boyfriend staying far more than allowed so should be charged rent!

Margaritaisme · 23/03/2017 23:16

Should i tell the landlord

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MiddleClassProblem · 23/03/2017 23:27

I'd say "we'll let you back in and give you the key. Sorry we just don't feel safe leaving it outside." Or something?

SuperFlyHigh · 24/03/2017 12:01

OP, yes tell the landlord, because if the locks are being changed that means a change to the locks.

And that was due to your flat mate leaving keys outside the house.

Also your flatmate is flouting the rule about having guest staying over more nights. I presume landlord would charge the boyfriend rent if he actually shared but he doesn't.

ImFuckingSpartacus · 24/03/2017 12:02

Yes, the landlord will want to know she is letting randomers leave keys to the house for anyone to find!

Margaritaisme · 24/03/2017 12:40

Because we all moved in as a group I am concerned that telling LL would put me and others at risk too

I am wondering whether I can ban boyfriend from house?

I neeed to have a serious talk with her

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