My friend expects me to give her my babies old cloths

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My friend has just found out she's pregnant and expects me to give her all my sons old clothes should she have a boy.
I have no need for these clothes, and don't see a need to hang onto bags of clothes on the off chance we have another child in the future and that child be a boy. (We are happy with one and currently can't afford a second anyway) With that in mind I have decided to donate all his old bits (including some barely used toys) to a local women's shelter who help families escaping domestic abuse.
She has found out I did this and is now in a mood that I didn't give her the stuff. When I was pregnant and buying stuff for my son she would make sly comments about me buying stuff when it was on sale, and buying from the likes of Tesco, Asda and Sainsbury's. She would often stick her nose in the air and comment that she would only dress her child in stuff from the likes of mammas and papas, and seemed to think that buying in the sale was beneath her.
AIBU to donate stuff when I could have given it to her?

"I did make a comment about how she prefers 'good quality stuff', she suddenly backtracked and said that it's okay when there small"

'Well you shouldn't have made such snobbish remarks when I bought them!'

She doesn't sound much of a friend. And by giving them to the refuge, you have really helped some women. You did the right thing.

I presume she was pregnant When you donated them? Your clothes your choice, but if you donated them before she was even pregnant the mind boggles at her attitude!

I normally put all my boys outgrown clothes in bags and donate them to charity shops but this thread has made me have a rethink and I will try and donate them to a refuge next time. It's such a wonderful idea as I imagine lots of women arrive with their children and only the clothes that they are wearing.

Your stuff. You do with it what you want.
She sounds really grabby. I'd start saving any well worn and perhaps discoloured stuff for her instead of chucking it.
Donate away what you want to. I think it's nice that you are helping women who will likely have left quickly and have very little.