To get a gift for MIL?

[Saxa]

Ok, not really MIL, but my partner's mum. We've lived together for 6 months.

DP doesn't bother getting his mum anything for mother's day. That's his choice and I'm sure she is used to the arrangement and doesn't expect anything. They have a good relationship but DP doesn't really buy into all the commercial "hallmark holidays".

Since moving in with DP and away from my support network, 'PIL' have helped me with childcare, car trouble, make us lovely meals every sunday, and are just generally wonderful.

I don't go daft on my own mum for mother's day either, just a bunch of flowers and a card, sometimes we go for lunch.

Would it be odd if I gave DPs mum some flowers too? Maybe without a card if that might be a bit much?

[TalkingofMichaelAngel0]

Whats he like on valentines day, christmas, birthdays op?

[Saxa]

He isn't much fussed on any of it to be honest, Talking. He doesn't expect a fuss made for himself and seems to just enjoy getting/doing something nice when the notion takes him rather than on a set day.

He does take time at Christmas to pick everyone's presents, and got me something amazing last year (first one as a couple). He also took me out on valentines day after we both agreed it was a bit of nonsense and not to bother.

He's not mean at all and is actually very generous/kind but he just says he's never bothered with mother's day.

[Chottie]

I think it is a lovely idea and it's great to hear of someone who gets on with and likes their MiL

[showmeislands]

It's a lovely idea to get her some flowers. Really nice thing to do. Go for it!

[Sundance01]

We do not do mothers day in my family, too many birthdays around that time and don't like the idea of being told when to show appreciation. And we never give token gifts.

But if someone new to our family did this for me I would be delighted. It is not my way - but being thanked is always nice. You could have bought flowers and thanked her at any time but if you feel more comfortable doing it on a traditional day - then it is still a lovely gesture.

[SeaEagleFeather]

I think it's lovely. Definitely do it!

[Pinkheart5915]

I always get mil some flowers or something on Mother's Day from me, I know she isn't my Mum but me and mil are very close

No harm in some flowers OP

[preciouspig]

I got my boyfriends mum flowers last mothers day. He never bothered but she had been really lovely and give us a cheque to buy the babys pram cot etc so I thought she deserved it

[Doyouwantabrew]

Hi op I am a mil with a super dil and I know she will get me a cake or such like as we are so close and I help out with child care etc.

Just do it love she will be thrilled.

[SheSaidHeSaid]

I've done similar, except I just bought MIL a bunch of flowers and no card. Thought it was a bit more casual and less like I was stepping on DH's toes that way. He knee I was buying his mum the flowers as well.

[SheSaidHeSaid]

Knew*

Bloody phone!

[Saxa]

That's exactly what I think SheSaid a card would be a bit much but I will definitely get her some lovely flowers and just say that it's a wee thanks for all she does for the three of us.

I realise how lucky I am to have her when I read the threads on here about some people's relationships with their in-laws.