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DP driving me crazy!

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esmaesmomma · 21/03/2017 07:16

DP and I are getting married at the end of the year so at the moment we are supposed to be tightening our belts and saving.

DP keeps saying he is on a diet he went out and bought an exercise bike about 3 weeks ago.. he has been on it twice the bike was over £100. Then he tells me all this stuff he wants for this diet he wants to do and to be honest it's not cheap.

I do like treat foods myself and I am not on a diet and due to his diet and his working patterns I eat a lot of stuff from the freezer dd is on jars and formula.

Aibu to be so fed up to find that when I go to bed of an evening my DP stays downstairs and helps to himself to everything I have bought for myself including my cereal? He's asked me to get the stuff for his diet I spend ages preparing his food for the following day because of his work patterns he doesn't get home until around 11pm some nights.

It is him who has put himself on this diet not me he does weigh over 18 stone but because he is tall in my opinion he carries it well but I get he's not happy so I try and support him hence preparing these meals he wants. I don't mind doing that but it is taking the piss when he eats all my stuff as well as his own we are trying to save plus have dd to pay for I can't afford to keep doing all this extra food shopping!

He also has a nasty habit of leaving everything switched on I came down stairs to find the tv on, the lamp on and the kitchen Light. He is costing us a fortune in electric he does this most nights!

This may sound a little petty to some put it actually is starting to grate on me a lot it's been going on for a while and I do try and tell him he's dismissive and says he can't see why im in a mood but I'm not being funny he gets to eat fresh meat each day while I'm eating shitty Chicago town pizzas and bastard oven chips! Sorry I'm getting annoyed just writing this but I needed to get it off my chest!

Personally I think it's selfish of him just feels it's always me going without because I don't eat the food I buy for him (most of it I don't like) but he does like these foods which is what I don't understand!

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esmaesmomma · 21/03/2017 10:23

I'm not a veggie but il be honest I like simple plain food I know it's not exciting but I don't like things like onions and peppers. I also like
Things like spag Bol, lasagna, pasta bake. I do eat some salad stuff but not much and I like all veggies that come with a toast but he doesn't. It's tough planning healthy meals that suit us both as since he's the one with the weight issue his diet takes priority just as much my fault as it is his.

He is incredibly lazy and it's the one trait about him I really dislike he will do things he is asked usually but I have to ask him and he is a good dad he's very hands on with our daughter.

He caught me hiding a tube of Pringles behind the stereo and got really offended about it.

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esmaesmomma · 21/03/2017 10:23

Roast* sorry

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ExplodedCloud · 21/03/2017 10:30

There has to be a way of feeding you both healthily. But he's lazy and putting all the work on you. This is how it will always be. He will make lazy choices every time.

Chloe84 · 21/03/2017 10:30

he's the one with the weight issue his diet takes priority just as much my fault as it is his.

Shock It's not your fault, OP. He's an adult, a lazy one. Cook what you like and give him a healthy portion. And tell him to cook on his days off so he can cook what he likes.

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esmaesmomma · 21/03/2017 10:31

No I don't mean his weight is all my fault I mean the fact I prioritise his diet over my own.

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Chloe84 · 21/03/2017 10:38

Ah sorry Smile

Yes, please do stop that. I used to do the same, cook what my DH liked and avoid the foods (mostly veg) that I liked but he didn't like. Now I just cook what I like (or what we both like) and he can eat it or lump it. He will also cook if I ask him to.

WorraLiberty · 21/03/2017 10:43

You need to think about this.

You are about to marry an 'incredibly lazy man' (your own words).

Why would you do that? You do realise he's not going to change because there's absolutely no need for him to, if you're still willing to marry him?

Being a 'good dad' and 'hands on' is the least I would expect from anyone who chooses to have a child.

That's setting the bar quite low and it's no reason to put up with his incredible laziness.

Happyinthehills · 21/03/2017 11:41

Yes he's not the good dad who will prepare healthy food for his child is he?
He doesn't set a good example to them if he's incredibly lazy and just wants to play with them.

neonrainbow · 21/03/2017 14:39

If you marry him you're stuck with him being a lazy arse forever.

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