To expect forgiveness after accidentally making a joke about a baby's Hemangioma

[persianpeach]

I am soo mortified. I just made a joke on social media about a friend's granddaughter wearing an earring from a very early age (actually believing it was a Pom Pom attached to a blanket or the cushion she was lying on) and it was a hemangioma/birth mark.
How could I not realise?! I feel a bit sick. I would NEVER have joked about something so un-funny had I known.
I only noticed it as it was also evident on another photo just put up.
She has removed the post and I have sent my sincere apologies and asked for forgiveness. I feel terrible.
She has not replied.
What shall I do?

I would never advocate unforgiveness, but I have to say, I love how you were confidently bashing ear piercing in children (beloved of chavs, other working class people and foreigners, right?) and you're now the more typical quivering jelly.

Please apologise again in a day or two. My son had a huge prominent birth mark on his forehead until he was about a year old. It looked like a massive bruise. Everywhere we went wags would find it hilarious to ask if we'd dropped him, or would tut loudly and give us dirty looks. After months and months of it I was very sensitive about it! I do always remember one lovely woman in the supermarket one day. Her husband made a loud remark about the poor baby, must have been dropped on his head. She took one look, and ripped him a new one telling him not to be stupid, it was obviously a birth mark, didn't he remember their own son had one? It made my day, and I burst into tears.! She gave me a big smile and told me she remembered what it was like.

Anyway, I know you didn't mean any harm, but it is horrible when people look at your lovely baby and that's what they see and comment on.

charleston I am pretty sure the OP was not doing that. She was making a joke about baby looking like she had an earring when she GENUINELY thought it was a part of the blanket. I.e. It would not look realistically like an earring at all. Clearly a joke.

Why do some people search like mad for a reason to take offence?

I used to get it when Ds was a baby, people thought he'd bumoed his head. It did look like a fall had caused it. I just used to say, No it's a birth mark, it never upset me really.
I did however upset a friends DIL once time. I was at a halloween party and friends DIL brought her Mum to the party, her Mum was dressed as a pirate, complete with eye patch, I commented on how good it was the pirate woman smiled and laughed. Her daughter looked upset.
I found out the next day from friend, that DIL's Mum lost her eye and has to wear the eye patch, eye loss was caused by the DIL firing elastic bands about, hit her Mum, caused and infection, not treated, and lost her eye. She still gets upset if anyone says anything.

Oh my goodness squinkies that's so sad! Poor DIL carrying that around with her.

And as for your input, she was a pirate. It totally stands to reason.

Flying geese you are so right!
Charleston you are SO WRONG! My daughter had pierced ears at the age of 3 so I would hardly have meant it that way.
Anyhow my friend messaged me first thing the next morning to say she completely understood it was just a silly mistake and knew that I never have meant what I said in a malicious or unkind way.
Thank you lovely Mumsnetters for putting my mind at rest.
Big love! ❤️