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to think this doesn't really count as a thank you?

38 replies

Tindel · 20/03/2017 09:28

Went to a joint birthday party for a couple I know. As it was a significant birthday for them both, wife wanted to go all out and make it special. I misread a text from her about a few weeks ago and inadvertently volunteered to help put together a slideshow of photos of the couple to show on the night. Despite working full-time with a longish commute and having a toddler, combined with the fact we didn't get many people sending photos (wife sent contact details just over 2 weeks before the event), I managed to put something together.

Party is Saturday night and once everyone has been welcomed, cake cut and Happy Birthday sung, wife spends the rest of the night hammered on the dance floor. When we leave, we say goodbye to the husband and he thanks me for putting it together.

Logging onto FB this morning, I spot a post from the wife thanking everyone for coming and thanking those of us who did extra bits. She doesn't tag anyone, so I only see it by accident.

Aibu in thinking that's not much of a thank you? I think if she had time to do a FB post, she could have sent individual texts? I wasn't expecting anything much, but a quick msg saying "hi tindel, thanks for the slideshow" would have been nice. I just feel a bit unappreciated - aibu?

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Whathaveilost · 20/03/2017 10:37

Party is Saturday night and once everyone has been welcomed, cake cut and Happy Birthday sung, wife spends the rest of the night hammered on the dance floor. When we leave, we say goodbye to the husband and he thanks me for putting it together

For the life of me I can not work out what is wrong here. You have been thanked. Sounds like nearly everyone had a good time. Seriously what is the problem?

tigerrun · 20/03/2017 10:43

Blimey - I'm a big on thanking people, but it sounds like you were expecting a medal, perhaps they are arranging a ceremony but you haven't been informed yet Grin? They said thank you, get over it. You are coming across as very needy OP.

ProseccoBitch · 20/03/2017 10:49

I don't think you understand what friendship is, OP.

ProseccoBitch · 20/03/2017 10:49

You also sound like you're judging the wife for spending the evening 'hammered on the dancefloor', which is shitty.

SparkleTwinkleGoldGlitter · 20/03/2017 10:50

seriously let it go! You have not one but 2 thanks

What do you want a letter written in blood?

PuppyMonkey · 20/03/2017 10:54

They both said thank you, hence that definitely counts as a thank you.

HTH.

Meowstro · 20/03/2017 11:22

Oh ffs what more do you want, you had a personal thank you, there was a fb thank you, I suppose you want a card and gift too!?

Yabu!

NavyandWhite · 20/03/2017 11:31

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Tindel · 20/03/2017 11:49

Ok, clearly iabu. Good to know. Just to say, I'm not bothered about being publicly thanked, FB post, card whatever. Husband didn't ask me to do it, wife did. I thought it was a bit impersonal - I only saw the post by accident. But clearly I am an oversensitive flower. Lesson learned Smile

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NavyandWhite · 20/03/2017 11:54

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dowhatnow · 20/03/2017 11:57

Presumably she thanked you when you agreed to do it, or when you set it up at the venue, too?

TheTurnOfTheScrew · 20/03/2017 11:58

well taken OP Smile

tigerrun · 20/03/2017 12:01

Fair play OP! Oversensitive flower made me laugh Grin.

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