to not be able to relax and enjoy weekends?

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I don't know why, I have no excuse. My kids are teens, they don't need me to run after them. i can have time to myself and a lie in.

BUT it feels lonely a lot and like I spend the time feeling anxious and keyed up. I have issues I shouldn't have. I wish i could relax and fritter the weekend away like normal people. I always end up waking up with a stress headache, I don't get this mon to fri, just at weekends. My job is very stressful due to the fact it's badly run by idiots, not that its high powered.

Sorry just wanted a moan. I want to relax at weekends and not be tired and anxious all the time. I don't have any family to visit, to take me out myself.

Sorry to hear that. A stressful job is one thing but not being able to switch of is another. I can sympathise.
I can highly recommend Meditation & Mindfulness for switching of all that background brain noise.
And maybe make some plans for next weekend, meeting friends, visiting somewhere or starting a new hobby?

I'm the same, find it hard to relax, DD doesn't need me much (money and lifts!) and as I'm single I have to make an effort to have some company but actually I feel like just doing nothing much or doing things on the spur of the moment. I go to the gym one day, and I have a fairly regular walk and brunch arrangement with a friend but I often get anxious I think because I'm on my own and so there's more time and space to get neurotic!

What are the issues that you have?

I have family issues making my feel abandoned and alone. I've always spent a lot of time alone but sometimes it makes me feel anxious, like autumn above, I dont want to have loads of plans and would rather do stuff if I feel like it. Most of my friends are surrounded by extended family at weekends so are busy anyway.

I just want to relax and switch my mind off. I had CBT but didnt really gel with it.

Can you make a point of getting up and going out somewhere, with a friend or even if it is by yourself? Museum, coffee and cake, a walk round a lake somewhere? Or stay in bed and read a book/watch box sets?

I got rid of my regular weekend headaches by completely giving up caffeine. I had a horrible withdrawal headache but after that I didn't get them again. Not much help with the other things but might help with the headache.
If it's any consolation, my weekend with extended family etc has made me feel worn out and drudge-like as all I've done is laundry and housework and ferried kids about!

thats interesting, I too get headaches every weekend