one of my nieces was in my care for the afternoon. She is develpmentally delayed and is 10 yrs old, and will go to a special school in september.
I am fully aware of this and have worked with children who are often much younger in there head than years.
However, it seems that there are no boundries in this family. I respect and agree that any form of corperal punishment is not a way forward. However that seems to be an excuse not to have any rules.
Well apart from the children having complete control of daddy.
This 10 yr old child , was rough and voilent with a 3 yr old guest, waiting until i left the room to do this. shoving and throwing things at this child.
Smacked my 8 yr old daughter because she didnt want to play her game, with her.
tried to slap my other nephew around the face, but being quick of foot she missed.
Then to cap it all, she spilt 1/2 litre bottle of bleach all over my bathroom floor, staining my bath mats, and being walked across my landing.
She lied about it to our faces, until I pointed out that she was the only child with bleach stains on her clothes.
We did check her for any harm to her hands, but she was very careful not to spill any of it on her skin.
The other neice 9yrs sulked all day because my daughter didnt want to play her games. At least she was quiet.
My BIL decided that as a punishment he would take the children home early, but that was what the children wanted to do anyway.
I didnt have the guts to mention the violent behaviour , as we did try some years ago, and he wouldnt accept that our son prevoked his daughter, ( and implication that he deserved it)
A couple of hours later BIL rang hubby and said he had a little chat with daughter , who had told him that it was only a small amount of bleach, so no harm done.
This man sees his children through rose coloured glasses. They have no respect for many adults , there father ( who she does smack as well) or any children that come in her way.
My children have started to ask that we do not invite these children in our home.
recently, they have broken a double glazed window, lost some parts of my sons toys , and where caught putting glasses of blackcurrent squash on full heat in my microwave. ( but that story is for another moan!!)
I want my hubby to say something , but he is right in saying that he will never listen to us. so I am at a loss at what to do.
We have been pressured in to going to his home on mothers day, the whole family will be there, but I am sick of my children being smacked by these children. I have told hubby that one incidence of violence or controling behaviour and I will pack up my children and leave.
I never let my children bully other children, why should i let them be builied, but a child who may have learning difficulties, but is aware of what she is doing and needs rules and boundries.
end of rant.
thank you.