To want to tell my family I am pregnant???

[amum1]

Found out I am pregnant a week ago, we were going to keep it a secret until we knew everything was ok, but decided today that we would tell our parents and siblings (in case anything went wrong, so we have support) but DH wants to tell his brother before anyone else, because his brother and SIL were 'so gutted when we lost the baby last time' So I can't tell anyone till he has told them

The first time I was pg we told Dh's family first as it was their first g/child.

Second time we told my mum first as I was sick when she was here & she stated "You're pregnant, aren't you?" So of course I said "yes!!!!"

Does it matter who you tell first? Surely as long as they all know around the same time? Ie: Same day??

Congratulations,well ya just told a whole load of peeps .ops

I think, it dont matter who knows first,every1 is gonna know in the end,but with how the brother was last time i think its nice that ya thinking of him first but also dont forget he might be a bit worried of the "wot if"..

So myb self i would tell the brother first invite them both to dinner of he can take he's bro to the pub etc.

Congrats again

Both of you agree a time, both get on the phone to your famlies, there, solution found.

TBH although it seems really important now, in the grand scheme of things how important is it?

This isn't my normal posting name I am keeping that a secret for a while. This isn't our first child, and not the first grandchild on either side.
Guess I just want to tell people now

sorry, didn't mean that to sound insensitive. I just don't think 'who was told first' will be of any significance in 9 months time!

No I told my mother and sister first. DH totally understood as it was them who rallied round when DD was born. I would actually have told his parents sooner but he wanted to leave it a while

it my parents that support us and help us with everything, but I can't even tell them.

Why not?

'not until he has told his brother and SIL'

Oh right - I think thats a bit unfair

me too I am so excited and want to tell my parents and siblings and I can't

Why can't he tell them right now? Get on with it!

Text them all at the same time

lol, BIL was supposed to come round tonight, but something came up, appartently DH will tell them tomorrow.

Why dont you have them all over for drinks

tell them anyway, then ask them to act surprised when you call them.

coz some people work, my parents are going away this weekend, and I am very busy this week with things for our children.

yep, sorry I would just tell them. I can't see why your bil & sil would really care. I'm sure they'll just be really happy for you.

That doesn't read very well: I don't mean that they won't care you're pg! I just mean I doubt it'll be a big thing if they're not the first people you tell.

Surely everyone will just be really happy for you and the order they were told in won't matter.

I know, but I can't even tell my mum he isn't going to tell his mum till after his brother, which I think is a bit unfair.