is this enough to cause suspicion?

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To cut a very long story short, a friend who I've known for years I had a falling out with, something I don't ever see we can come back from. She went completely off the rails, she is extremely jealous and nasty towards me and it's happened before. Others who are aware of the situation have said I was mad to put up with her bollocks for this long and completely understood why I finally had to just say 'bye bye' to our friendship and her.

Anyway this ex friend is aware of my strained relationship with my in laws, in particular my mil and SIL, it is something I confided in her about. I won't go into details of the strained relationship, but I've put up with a hell of a lot over the years from them both and this ex friend knew all about this. Shortly after the falling out this friend kind of latched herself onto the inlaws over social media, she suddenly started liking and commenting on just about everything they wrote on Facebook (quite literally) and even her kid got in on all this Jazz, who barely even uses Facebook but suddenly began to. It was quite noticeable to myself and partner and also a mutual friend and it was just so blatantly ungenuine. Now this ex friend and in laws have met twice, quite briefly as well, but ended up adding one another on Facebook.

The other day mil,asked me if I had seen this friend, I told her openly what had happened and she is aware this happened before. Mil didn't say much other than 'oh god' and sniggered. The next day this ex friend put a picture up and mil commented on it telling her how lovely she looked. I thought it was a bit much really considering what I had just told her about this person and also that she doesn't really know her. I've also noticed that since this my mil has liked every single thing she has put on Facebook, so has my SIL and her husband. Now I find that a bit strange and I am wondering are they being a little bit fucking snaky toward me? It doesn't really upset me, I just think In my head this is another good and quite valid reason to just completely distance myself from the in laws altogether, but a part of me is thinking aibu?

Yep block the friend and unfollow the inlaws (although I have no issue personally about deleting family members).

It's really sad if you mull it over, leave the saddos to it.

I'm not sure OP. Without knowing the terrible things that your ex-friend, mil and others have done, it's hard to know.

They don't seem to have done anything to you, other than piss about on fb. Stop taking so much notice of what they're doing on there. It might not all be an attempt to 'get at' you at all. Who knows?

I don't know. There's obviously several backstories here, so hard to judge whether you're BU or not.

Bin them all, they are all in the same rubbish bin anyway, by their choice, get rid!!

Tell them each they are welcome to each other, and ask them if they will expect the same level of loyalty from each other as they gave you with an evil laugh!

wish them all good luck, as they will need it and sail merrily on with your life without them!

The week I got married my sister in law wrote more than one status about being really excited to "get this week over with" because she had lots of exciting stuff over the next few weeks. When neither my husband or I reacted she posted another flurry. We ignored it and forgot about it. If other people, people who you don't like, want to bugger about trying to bug you then they obviously care more about your reaction than you do. The best thing you can do to piss em off is ignore it all. If you don't care enough to piss em off then still ignore em all.

You can hide them all from your Facebook newsfeed so none of it will come up. They can then keep acting like children, and have no idea that you're not seeing it. IMO it's better than blocking because blocking shows they've gotten to you.

My MIL did this. She asks about this friend who she met at my wedding and I tell her it's kind of strained, she says it's awful, adds friend on fb then likes and comments on everything. Just put it down to your ILs being sad and lonely and forget about it. Can you hide posts from ILs and friend?

My motto is "people are people" you can't predict how they should act. Don't give it a thought, if they can't put "themselves in your shoes" that's their choice. All you can do is hold on to your sense, grab some popcorn and watch the inevitable occur

Life's too short for all that kind of nonsense. Just be the better person, block and ignore them, and have a great life.

I would delete or block. What you can't see won't hurt you. You now know their calibre so don't be confiding in people who don't have your best interests at heart. When inevitably asked about it just say "yeah we used to be friends, but it didn't work out so I don't see her anymore. Life's too short". Smile and be bright and breezy. Not all people can get on all of the time. Not everyone can like you. Work on knowing your boundaries (what is/isn't acceptable to you) and what to do when your boundaries are encroached. You're enough without these people liking you- your other relationships tell you so. Nurture them.

I feel bullied by what has gone on but am an old giffer so it just rolls off but how teens cope with it I can't imagine
I just wish people would have more spine and think for themselves a whole lot more than they do and realise that they are being manipulated by others into posting crap and liking posts etc. It's a shame that it's abused as a medium but I guess that's down to human nature? Abusers are going to be abusive and FB is perfect for their idle hands.

Agree with all the PPs. Don't feed this situation with any more energy. You are right to feel appalled and shocked at how low and devious people can be - but acknowledge that and leave it there.

It's like the advice I've read on here about how to deal with narcissistic people - to go 'grey' on them: bland, unresponsive, boring, 'normal' - no juicy reactions. Feed them nothing. Block arsehole friend, unfollow witchy in-laws, and know you are the better person.

Focus on all the positives in your life.

Thanks everyone. I have blocked the friend but can't do that for in laws, however I won't see things anymore now she is blocked. I'm just expecting mil/Sil to announce they are all going for coffee or something, which would be actually hilarious and desperate, but I wouldn't rule it out.

Just delete social media. Much easier than worrying over who is talking to who.

Take a big step back. Then another. And another. Then turn and walk away. They're twats & you don't need them. They feed on other people so starve them.