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AIBU?

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DH drunk eating

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BathshebaKnickerStickers · 18/03/2017 18:30

We are having a fundraising tea party tomorrow at a church hall. 65 guests.

I have been baking all day. My friend has been baking all day and my Mum has been baking all day.

DH had football and went out to the pub and the match at 11. Back in at 5.30.

I had our 3 children all afternoon (13,10 and 7) whilst baking.

Just back from swimming lessons and Dh walks in the door at the same time.

He decides that after a few pints my baking looks do good (especially the mini savoury pies) and he is just going to eat some

(Drunk DH just shovels things in without stopping).

I plead with him to leave them alone, they are counted, I'm feeding 60 people, I need 60 pies...!!!!

Apparently I'm ridiculous and unreasonable and he has never heard such nonsense. He is having nothing to do with the "stupid tea thing"...

So I'm left in tears....

Was IBU to want him to stop eating my baking?

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Violetcharlotte · 18/03/2017 20:33

He's been an arse, yanbu!

Is this typical of him, or is it a one off 'being a drunken twat' thing?

DioneTheDiabolist · 18/03/2017 20:34

OP, do you often have to plead with your drunk husband and then end up in tears?

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BathshebaKnickerStickers · 18/03/2017 21:30

Well my DH only gets drunk in a football related thing and I know never to challenge his commitment to that.

He didn't ever apologise but he made it clear that he was sorry. I had enough ingredients left to make 18 mini chicken curry pies which he almost inhaled. He has now drunkenly gone to bed. I'm drinking wine and watching The Voice.

I would normally make extra "for the family" but I had 60 scones and 150 pancakes as well as all the mini pies - all of the family will be at the event tomorrow and they have free rein on what is left (even if we could sell it for more funds).

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DameDeDoubtance · 18/03/2017 22:14

Maybe it's time to start challenging his behaviour.

blackteasplease · 18/03/2017 23:13

Horribly disrespectful of him.

Does he think your time is worth nothing?

And more importantly that if you say no to something then that's the final answer.

Wolfiefan · 18/03/2017 23:18

Football isn't an excuse to get shitfaced.
Being shitfaced isn't an excuse to run roughshod over your wife.
He didn't apologise. So he didn't make it clear he was sorry.
I agree with Dame.

SalemSaberhagen · 18/03/2017 23:19

He ate 18 pies?!

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BathshebaKnickerStickers · 18/03/2017 23:26

Yes - they were mini - 2-bite pies but yes - 18 easily. Which is why I was literally begging him not to touchy my stock for tomorrow as I knew he would have shovelled in that number of (hand piped, fancy) pies without even tasting them.
I had left over pastry and filling and I made him these extra ones so he wouldn't eat my stock for tomorrow. At the end of a 6 hour day of baking I didn't need another 30 minutes (15 mins prep, 15 mins in the oven) cooking just to feed him when he wasn't even paying attention to what he was eating.

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blackteasplease · 18/03/2017 23:29

I agree. You shouldn't have "had to" do extra baking just to feed him

He should have had the respect to realise that they were not for him, you had been working hard, and that your answer was final.

I hate it when people shovel things in without even tasting them anyway. Such a waste of anything nice!

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BathshebaKnickerStickers · 18/03/2017 23:44

Just remembered - he haf4 at lunchtime where the piping had gone wrong - it's not like he was deprived

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JaniceBattersby · 18/03/2017 23:53

EIGHTEEN PIES?!

Don't get me wromg, I'm the type of girl to eat a packet of Marylands in one sitting but eighteen pies? Jeez.

PigletJohn · 19/03/2017 00:00

does he play in goal?

ageingrunner · 19/03/2017 00:04

Is he quite a big lad? He sounds like an inconsiderate arse btw.

AdoraBell · 19/03/2017 00:15

Polly has it right.

For future occasions of footie and fundraising clashing I would get a load of crap pies from the supermarket for him and make sure the home baked pies are out of sight under lock and key

BreconBeBuggered · 19/03/2017 00:18

Bloody hell. I'd have turned him into a set of replacement pies for that.

threesocksmeghan · 19/03/2017 09:03

TheNewSchmoo - to clarify, I meant kick him out of the house (away from the pies!) not permanently!!

Emphasise · 19/03/2017 09:15

Oh dear. I completely get where you're coming from, but I don't think it's entirely unreasonable for him to sample your delicious baking. I would have made extras too to allow for damaged ones and I'd have fed them to the family.

DH once drew "rude bits" on the gingerbread men I made for the school fete, when I was daft enough to leave the icing dodah out. Now that was NOT funny.

AHedgehogCanNeverBeBuggered · 19/03/2017 09:21

He's a disrespect knobber

I can't believe you made him more pies after his remarks! If he doesn't grovellingly apologise today then it's reasonable to patio him, I'm sure plenty of MNers will be able to swear they were with you all day so it couldn't have been you what did it

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