Aibu?
I come from a divorced family. This mean 3 sets of grandparents for my two children to see dd(2 years old) and ds (6 months)
My mil is awsome she comes up 2 times a week to help me out while dh is working away. She has a cup of tea sees the kids and is happy with that. She is amazing and follows anything I say when it to the children.
My mum and SD see the kids every 2 weeks from 1 until 3. Again follow.rules, dont boundary stomp so on so on. Giving me chance to catch up on stuff and have a little me time.
My dad and SM however just expect the children on demand. They havent seen the kids in 3 months. When I do see them my dad boundary stomps ie. Says my 7 year old sister can push dd on the front, in a trike unattended even tho the street is right by a road and makes me out to be a bitch when I say no. He even went as far as to take dd out to my sister out and then kicked up a fuss when I brought her back in
He questions everything I do ie. Dd cant have chocolate until she ate her lunch
And when I remind him im her mother hes even said "not when your here your their sister" as a joke but talk about disrespectful!.
Anyway. He rings after 3 months and asks if he can take dd the zoo. I say not without ds. He goes on a rant about saving money and how ds wont know whats going on.
I explain ds loves the zoo everytime we take him and its not fair for him to miss.out.
Dad goes in a huge guilt trip about how im stopping him see dd and how unreasonable im being and Ill just tell him I bring both kids to see him next weekend.
He hangs up and its done with.
Now I understand the kids will do different thing like playdates and stuff but I just feel my dad shouldnt be excluding ds after 3 months of not seeing either of them...also seeing their friends is very different to seeing family? Or am I wrong?
Oh thinks im being unreasonable and now im not sure?
Bring me the tough love if I need it haha