To Want To Take My Beaver Scouts To Camp

[lakesstu]

I currently help to run a Beaver Scout colony. To be completely honest, I am also a parent of 4 and work full time.

Our Beavers have the chance to go camping with lots of others this summer. Just the one night from Saturday morning to Sunday afternoon. I am despirate to take them.

DP tells me that I am being selfish. They feel that I should only be concerned with my own children, not anybody elses. I spend almost every minute that I am not at work caring for my children while DP slobs on the sofa. Apparently (in their words), they should 'find somebody else to do that wierdo Scouts crap'.

I will have one of my kids with me on camp, but DP tells me they will go away with their mates that weekend if I push the issue, so there would be nobody to look after the others. Cant take the others with me as the eldest 2 would hate it and the youngest is too young (and would also hate it). Middle child will love it, and will be going anyway.

My Dad would look after a couple, but all three might be too much as he is very old and on his own. In law's are not very helpful.

AIBU?

So, your partner spends no time with their children?

I spend almost every minute that I am not at work caring for my children while DP slobs on the sofa

is that because yuor wife has had the kids all day though?

It doesn't sound a great relationship tbh , You don't sound like you like each other very much just now

Well, thanks for all the opinions. We talked things through and we agreed that we were both being U and Nu in our own ways.

We have agreed a compromise. I will help at the camp and he is going away for a night a few weeks beforehand with friends to see a band he has been wanting to see for a while.

Seems like a win-win to both of us.

Hmm, wish he wasn't so down on Scouts, but no biggie. We all have our opinions on things.

By the way, for those that were wondering, he is a 'he'. I am also a 'he'. Our children are from previous relationships (1 mum not on the scene, the other not available that weekend but generally great).

Please accept my apologies for being obtuse, we just feel that our fenders do not need to be disclosed online unless we choose.

Fenders? Genders!!!

Good compromise.

You both work so why shouldn't you both have time for activities outside of work and the home?

Does sound a bit spiteful on the part of your dp.

Ah slow typed, see a compromise has been reached.

Yep, I guess one thing I can take out of this is not to post while the heat of an argument is still there.

We do appreciate the responses though, they, and taking a breather, helped us see the big picture.

Thank you all.

I'm glad you've sorted it out.

And yes, don't post in the heat of it. I've had my arse handed to me recently for the same thing.

Have fun on the camp, I have to say that my two oldest LOVED Beaver and Scout camps and I do applaud those who give their time. I just think it has to be balanced against the needs of your own family, which it sounds like it is for you.