Should I let her teacher know?

[Halle71]

My 7 year old / yr 3 DD went on a school trip yesterday and when I was cleaning out her lunchbox I found this. It's her writing.
I asked her how she knows about Chucky and she named a boy in her class.
Reading between the lines (her teacher practically told me) he comes from a troubled background and DD has taken it upon herself to look after him - lends him stationary, helps him with his work, pairs with him for trips because no one else will (her words) and chooses him for team sports.
I really don't want to spoil this relationship or make life any more difficult for him, but I'm also not happy about things they are potentially talking about.
Maybe not mention his name?

Goggins : it definitely would.

You are right that nothing on the page says that but it is school paper.

OP is troubled enough to post so is bothered by it. Follow your instincts OP.

Meh it's probably just hearsay. My DS1 came home singing the "One two, Freddy's coming for you" rhyme but he's never seen it, even now.

Now, DS2 had a period of drawing pictures of me and his dad and brother, with weird people behind us. He kept saying they were other people he could see when he looked at us. That freaked us (and the school) out for a while but he seems to have grown out of it, thank god! Strange child.

Yes, they shouldn't Anne - I am wondering how that conversation happened myself!

Nonetheless, I think OP had worked it out for herself.

I stopped my DS going to a friend's house when I discovered they had played Call of Duty all day, aged 12.

Fair point. Not about the paper but about op spidey senses. No harm in mentioning it.

ILike I am not condoning their choices. My DCs aren't allowed access to any of that material obviously.
I haven't seen Childsplay (or the Walking Dead) but as a PP pointed out there is nothing to say that the DCs talking about it have seen it either.
My siblings are teachers in different schools (state and private) in different cities and their primary school pupils all know about Chucky. In one school Chucky has been repurposed into their game of chase. In another, they have had DCs wearing the costume. So as a character, the understanding that DCs may have of Chucky has moved considerably from the original movie.

If I was his teacher I'd want to know, it's about jigsaw pieces. Perhaps relevant, perhaps not, it's not our place to decide that.

Your daughter sounds lovely.

Maybe - Place - btu we don't know that, so , as PP, said, no harm is saying something. Then the school will be aware themselves if this is a widespread fad. If so, they are probably trying to stamp it out.

My DCs are a bit old fashioned boys types (just Fifa 17 on the Xbox) but neither of them (15 and 12) have heard of Chucky, honest! DS1 says he has heard of The Walking Dead but DS2 has not.

I wouldn't speak to DS2's school if he came home mentioning Chucky. But if I found a piece of paper appearing to revel in it a bit AND knew this was inspired by a troubled child, I would definitely act.

There was a thread on here last year about posters who had dressed their DCs up as Chucky, even toddlers. I must admit I was surprised. It's a phenomenon I was largely unaware of until it turned up at DCs' school.

Exactly Random jigsaw pieces.

Brilliantly put.

ILike I said in my first post that the OP should speak to the school if it will make her feel better because it has obviously concerned her. My later posts don't negate that advice. They were just providing a wider context.

I can understand your first reaction as it was a shock when my little boy came home asking to watch 'five nights at Freddy's' aged six. He thought it sounded like a great movie! Hopefully pp's have convinced you that this sort of things is not uncommon and all the kids move through the phase with no signs of permanent damage.
I do think you are a bit unfair to connect the incident to the boys suspected 'troubled background' however as I agree with APlace that it's completely unrelated to the background of the child. Probably more to do with having slightly older siblings /family friends.

I missed that Place - sorry! :)

Ellsy please read the jigsaw pieces post.

If older siblings and relatives are actually exposing a young child to Childsplay I would be HUGELY concerned!! This is what happened to one of the Bulger killers .

I agree if its' just the language , ti is a far milder concern. But OP cannot make those judgement calls. She doesn't have all the pieces of the jigsaw. The two she has (reference to Childsplay and killing / troubled child) are enough for her to act, I should say!

Teacher can note it and, if there are repeated indications that this young child is being exposed to unsuitable adult material there will be safeguarding procedures that can be triggered

^ THIS

It is about 'jigsaw pieces' (great phrasing btw) and so alone it won't cause any problems for the child or family, but it might be the last piece that is needed to trigger gentle intervention. I would absolutely want to speak to safeguarding lead, bewildered by the number of posters going 'nah, this is normal' - how the fuck is this 'normal' for a child of that age?

elly I had forgotten about 'Five Nights at Freddy's' - yy that was a topic of conversation at one point too and Slenderman.
My feeling is that we can absolutely control the material our DCs access at home but we have to be aware that outwith our influence they will be introduced to concepts and characters that we consider inappropriate. We need to equip our DCs to combat those influences and we need to have good communication with our DCs so they bring these topics to us.

bewildered by the number of posters going 'nah, this is normal' - how the fuck is this 'normal' for a child of that age?

^^

Hoorah! The voices of reason are appearing !

Thanks for all the opinions.
I think I will let it go.

And the people who are saying the teacher shouldn't have said anything, it was very much 'between the lines' and a few things added together - also kind of corroborated by DD. She was getting picked on by the same boy - broke her ruler, pulled the leaves of plants she was growing, overly boisterous etc. but was pretty chilled about it so I discussed it at parents evening. They had a class about empathy - how you never know what's going on in someone's life to make them grumpy and apparently this opened the floodgates. DD told me a bit about this because she cried - it was a period when she went to bed upset about dying every night - including what other people had said.
My friends DD was being bullied at another school and they were told details of the child's background that were relevant to the problem. This must be allowed.

Oh Halle71, aren't you worried she's being a bit too empathetic if he was so unkind to her? Maybe taken the class too literally. Keep your eyes and ears open with this. Your last post worries me more than the picture.

me too Goggins

OP did you read my post about my DS and the shelf?

I dodn't know why you are letting this go at all in the light of your update.

Is it concern that it will get back to your daughter?

sorry, by which meant the boy will figure out your DD has 'grassed ' on him and you are concerned for her welfare, if so.

Goodness, Ilikebeans, the Spanish Inquisition would have had nothing on you!
I think you're reading a lot into this based on your own experience. We don't know for sure what are the circumstances of this child's background and whether he is only one in the class going on about death and killing - not even OP knows for sure.
Surely the most important factor is whether it's still affecting her DD's emotional state. I would be more concerned by her worrying about death as that is something that can affect children quite deeply if they dwell on it too much.

Yes indeed ellsy , my own experience as a safeguarding lead!

But yes, I always thought I should have been a spy.

It's not about whether he is the only one going on about death and killing : it is about that fact that he has introduced concepts and a character from a video nasty to OP's daughter and encouraged HER to dwell on killing and write violent words .

And the dripfeed that he has bullied her daughter makes reporting it far more important.

And, just to despairingly hammer it home, it is the very fact that we - and the OP - don't know about the child's background which makes it reportable. Because only the school do!!