This is about a female co-worker "friend" who I've known for nearly 10 years. She can be a nice, funny person but underneath it all she is a bully. I've met up with her in the past outside of work occasionally (lunch, walks, couple nights out) but it's been mostly a work "friendship".
I do not want to be friends with her any more. Over the past year or so she has become manipulative, selfish, mean & obsessive. She only ever talks about herself & her problems, never asks how me or my family are, she never even text me to see how I was when a close family member died - but she expects me to travel 40 mins to her house at the drop of a hat because she's had a fall out with her boyfriend.
She has fallen out with 2 of her closest friends in the last year, which is why I think she's started to cling to me. She only asks me to hang out when she's stuck in the house on a Saturday night & can't get a babysitter, when I ask if we can do something during the week instead (because she always asks last minute when I already have plans) she is not interested.
I'm off work this week visiting family (she knows this) & I've already had a message asking why I'm not responding to her emails (I've not had internet), yesterday she texts DH telling him to get me to call her!!
She's even turned up at my house before unanounced & uninvited!
She told me today she's going on a night out in a few weeks - would I like to come. I said no thanks, it's not really my thing - and I've received a load of abuse for not wanting to go.
At work she will be really moody and hardly talk to me if I don't do what she wants. We work next to each other - I can't block her on Facebook or her phone number because it will cause tension at work - I really don't want that because to be honest I just don't think that's fair on me.
What can I do/say? She will not take no for an answer. It's an awkward situation.