DP not looking for a job

[FutureMammyB]

I don't think IABU but need some outside perspective.

I work part time but have a zero hour contract so my shifts vary week to week. DP has been unemployed for over 2 months now. DP claims to have been job hunting whilst unemployed, however I whenever I look at his computer screen while he's on it, he is playing video games. Money is starting to get tight so he really needs to get a job soon.

I was not working today so was up bright and early with housework. DP got up around midday. I decided to give him a little push and have several job sites loaded up on his computer ready for him. He saw, gave me very hurt look, but did start looking through them.

I then went to the shop and returned about an hour and a half later to find DP was no longer on job sites but playing his stupid online game! I asked him how the job hunt was going and he said he was taking a break. This did not sit well with me and I got very upset with him and told him that he's spent the last two months dicking around on that game and that it was about time he grew up and took some responsibility.

This did not sit well with him and he has now spent most of the afternoon sulking in bed with the cover pulled over his head.

I know his reaction is extremely childish but was I being a bit unfair to kick off at him like that?

You need love and support around you with a new baby, not a man-child who sulks in bed and won't get a job. Talk to your mum and share how you are feeling. You deserve better, you know.

I think it would be a good plan to confide in your Mum.

If it's so easy to find a job why not find a better one yourself? Some people genuinely struggle to find a job, if it's that bad that you are willing to just up and leave then obviously more is getting to you than just the job and cleaning.

Borrowed
Have you tried getting a new job at 24 weeks pregnant?

Borrowed - it seems to me the issue is more that he's not even looking rather than he's not found on.

I've been out of work, I know it's no piece of piss, but I was on job boards every morning, applied for anything suitable and temped as much as I could. He's clearly not even trying.

I don't think anyone thinks it is easy to get a job - anyone who has ever worked knows this but also know that you do have to try and look for one.

The op was out of the house for an hour and a half, how does she know he wasn't looking in that time? I haven't had to try and get a job that far along so I wouldn't know, I can imagine it's hard though with getting maternity leave, I think you have to be in a job a certain amount of time or is that just men? I get that it's hard though.
I just think that nagging at someone to get a job when there is so much pressure already and soon there will be another little person to provide for it really can't be easy, I'd take a step back let him know once how seriously he needs to get one and then just leave it. If he hasn't got a job in a few weeks time of being left to do it himself then leave. Can he not claim benefits in the mean time so that you don't become pennyless?

BorrowedHeart Why would is he letting his pregnant partner do all the housework when she's also working? Doesn't sound like he's tried hard to find a job (e.g. left the house looking, submitted his CV, called back to check on applications etc.)

OP I really feel for you. My husband lost his job nearly 2 months ago and despite constant encouragement and support he has not applied for a single job. We don't have children and I am working full time but I can understand how the pressure can be absolutely overwhelming. I'm still looking for answers I'm afraid but I do sympathize