To think this is verging on bullying behaviour

[nihilist]

My new boss added all staff members on Facebook. I wasn't really comfortable with this but I didn't feel I had much choice.

Her feed is ultra annoying, full of "inspirational" quotes and references to gin and wine o'clock, but I ignored it as background noise.

Fast forward to before Christmas I had a bit of a disagreement with her over working practices, and had to involve the union. I thought it was sorted and things were ok.

After Christmas I noticed that she had unfriended me. My first thought was relief - I never felt comfortable with her on there, and I personally think it's unprofessional. However, she hasn't unfriended anyone else and has added new members of staff. So in effect I'm the only staff member she has done this to. I also found out that there is a closed staff group which I have never been invited to. Personally I couldn't give a flying fuck, but professionally it seems a bit off, and all a bit "Mean Girls".

Today I walked in on her discussing the group and when she saw me she immediately stopped talking. Other staff are surprised that I'm not in it, as both work and social things are discussed. It's beginning to feel like bullying by exclusion.

I'm going to ask the union's opinion but would be interested to know what other people think.

Not disingenuous at all Bluntness - she was breaking the law in regards to a disability related matter, and I had to get confirmation of that. Yes, I don't particularly like her, but that is as a result of her subsequent behaviour.

Are you a teacher by any chance?

No not a teacher, but public sector.

This does sound like bullying by exclusion. Fair enough she doesn't want you as a FB friend but she should have included you in the group.

You don't sound like 'hard work' to me, OP. I think most people would feel nervous/upset in your position. Your boss sounds like a right gobshite.

QuiteLikely5 Why do you assume OP is handwork because she complained to the union? Surely that's what unions are for?! Otherwise your boss could basically completely take the piss.

With regards to the Facebook unfriending, I do not think that is bullying. I think that considering that there had been an issue at work it was probably the best thing to do. Perhaps she did not want anything she may have put on there to be misconstrued and have the potential to cause future problems.

With regards to the work group, I think she is treading a very thin line. That being said though,I'm sure someone else could have invited you, so they are all responsible for that.

If she is throwing meetings that are pertinent to work though that is unacceptable. At very least it is unprofessional at worst it is bullying.

Have an informal chat with her manager

I've had cause to contact my union about a work issue before. Does that make me hard work too? Surprised at pp who think going to the union is A Bad Thing.

I'd find a new job OP. Do you really want to work with someone who is stuck mentally in the playground?

If she is using FB as a semi-official working tool, she needs to make sure there is equality of access, and if she's blocked you from a group then she needs to sort that out if any work stuff is being discussed or progressed on there.

Also you may need to hit her in the face with a chair.

OP you were in the right, presumably she was in the wrong re the working practices.

She is very immature, please complain.

But unless you love your job, I;d start to look elsewhere.

Work should be enjoyable. If you do leave, please do get a better paid, more senior role and tell your company exactly why you are leaving.

You're making her life difficult, she doesn't want to be friends with you or interact with you on social media (something you wanted anyway) and you're surprised.

If she excluding you from work related matters then you have every right to go through HR and your union. It doesn't sound like you do though.