to stop DS using my car for this?

[VelvetSpoon]

DS (18) was asked to pick me up from the station (in my car) today at 17.15.

He hasn't turned up.

According to DS2 who is an unreliable historian, he left at 1700, which should have got him here in plenty of time. But he's not here. And DS2 has now turned his phone off.

I am freezing and fed up. I already had to ring repeatedly from 3pm to remind DS1, eventually speaking to DS2 at 4pm who said DS1 was asleep but he'd wake him up.

I feel DS1 doesn't appreciate that having access to the car is a luxury, and am minded to take it away from him for a couple of weeks - AIBU?

DD1 needs a kick up the arse - tell him how it made you feel and that he needs to do more.

DS2 sounds more as if he was trying to protect his older brother than to be cruel, then realised and panicked a bit. He still needs a talking to, but I don't think it was that he couldn't be arsed with you, it sounds more misplaced sibling loyalty!

I suspect he didn't want to get DS1 into trouble and just didn't think.

DS2 probably covers for DS1 a lot more than you realise. Hope you've removed his car privileges

Yes, although admittedly several of his friends applied to uni nearby so they could still live at home because they wouldn't cook for themselves...!

DS1 is in a bad mood because he's only just woken up and was meant to meet friends at 10 today. I think he expected ne to wake him, though he didn't ask. He can often sleep 12-14 hours at a time. Which is ironic because as a baby I couldn't get him to sleep for more than a couple of hours at a time (he was 3 or 4 before he slept through the night). Anyway I'm not weakening on the car. It's easy because there's only 1 key, so I don't have to worry about him using it if I'm at work.

If he has a phone it has an alarm on it so he can arrange his own wake-up call.

And in the nicest possible way so do you.

They are both taking the piss and it's time they contributed a lot more to the running of the home.

I would take him off the insurance - it'll save you money and will also tell him that you're serious.

A car is a luxury. If he's not prepared to pull his weight whilst living at home and is not making an effort to job-hunt, then he needs to understand that luxuries are something that are earned.