toomuchtimereadingthreads2016 ·
17/03/2017 16:27
My head has absolutely hit the roof this afternoon, so have come to MN to try and get some perspective if IBU… the red mist has descended and I want to go in all guns blazing but need to calm down.
My DD is 2.5 and goes to nursery 5 days a week. The nursery was chosen v carefully and she has always been happy there (even not wanting to leave activities to come home!) she skips in each morning and loves telling us what she has been doing. However, I have never clicked with her teacher; I find her lazy and happy to do the bare minimum.
For background:
a) I drop DD off 3 days and week and DH the other two. Normally the teacher isn’t there at the time I drop her (8:50 in time to get to work), so she goes into the breakfast club ran by the head briefly then over to her class. DH drops her straight to her teacher. 2 days a week DH collects her, 2 days a week childminder and 1 day a week grandparents.
b) At the beginning of term parents were told by teacher that she would only be giving and writing in home diaries to those families who wrote back as no one had the previous year. We were all surprised, having presumed it was only for advising of illness or something specific. But she wanted daily communication of child’s afternoon after nursery, what we’ve done at the weekend, how they have slept etc. Ok fine no problem, have been writing at least 3 sentences each day all year. Teacher only has to tick boxes for how well the child ate, slept and used the toilet, with the option to add a line of description. At best I have had this reply back from her once a week, but she says she is too busy to fill them out for all the children. Fair enough, though confirms laziness to me.
Back to yesterday/today. It was childminders pick up day. She calls me at work which I knew meant something wrong. DD has had her face scratched by another child. It has been bleeding. Teacher said she didn’t have time to write in diary, but told CM who it had been, and that he had scratched FIVE classmates that day. Cm sends me a photo and the scratch goes from by her eye down to her chin and skin has been broken all the way along.
When I get home DD is upset, tells me who it was, has a comfort and goes to bed happy. In the morning I drop her off but don’t see her teacher, the head is there. I show the head the diary and say that I can understand why the diary might not get filled in daily but that in the case of an incident like yday there needs to be communication from the nursery. She apologises, says the little boy had a v bad day yday and that she will remind the teacher of protocol.
Grandparents pick up DD today and this is the note sent home: “I told your CM yday that I hadn’t had time to write in the diaries! They had a fight in the playground, your DD is very restless and annoys the other children! That’s why she got scratched!” ( I haven’t added the ! that’s how she has written it).
I dropped DD straight into the classroom on Wed morning (day before incident) and had a quick chat with teacher, NOTHING was mentioned about any bad behavior. Nor to my DH who she sees 4 times a week. The head didn’t mention any bad behavior on her part. FIVE children were hurt yday in one class of 15, FIVE.
So, AIBU to want to go and rip the teacher a new one? As far as I can make out, the head has given her a nod regarding communicating incidents home, and her solution has been to send me (not the first) snotty note saying its my DDs own fault if her face gets scratched to blood in her care, and she doesn’t have time to communicate this to me?! Thank god DD is moving school in September.